After months of my DH talking to me about taking time for myself and being kind to myself, I am at a point where I am starting to really listen It is soo hard for me as a 1st child, caregiver and a mother. It's like telling a child not to eat the cookie in front of them. So my question to him (& myself) is how does one change like that?? I'm I the only one who thinks it not natural to think of oneself first? It just doen't come natural to me.