Feeling better~but other problems to deal with
by, 05-14-2009 at 10:24 AM (1444 Views)
Gosh, I hate when I have several blog entries that are "downers" but sometimes writing about what's going on in my life, whether good or bad, seems to be theraputic for me.
Since this is the only blog that I write in on a regular basis, this is where everything ends up.
I'm more frustrated with myself today than anyone else, although Mike does play a big part in it.
Long story short, we agree about a year ago that he would take over the finances.
He never seemed "satisfied" with my 'system' and we went through the whole~where is the money going routine.
I know for those of you who are the budgeters in your family, you know what I'm talking about?
So I finally had enough and turned everything over to him.
Overall he does an okay job, but there have been several times over the past year that he leaves us with nothing until our next paycheck comes in.
What I mean by that is, he doesn't discuss the bills with me, everytime I try to bring it up that I think we should sit down together and go over things, he begins to get defensive over any questions that I ask him.
Soooo.....................I just let it go.
FIRST MISTAKE on my part.
Anywho, back to the 'short story' part.
We have $9.00 left until payday, which is a week away.
I find this out *last* night. Now, we had extra money, that I chose to spend on finishing up our fence in the backyard, but when I came to him and talked with him about doing this he never mentions to me anything at all about how short on cash we were or that we might possibly need that money.
THAT, is a nutshell, is what I'm cranky about today.
So, um yeah, now that all of this has come to a boiling point, I now have to decide whether or not to take back over the finances or find a way to become more involved without all of the disputes that I've dealt with in the past.
How are finances handled in your relationship?
Are you, the wife, the sole budgeter and you just give your husband his 'spending money' or by some chance are you able to sit down together and work things through?
I'm all ears as to what works for everyone here.
I'd love some input, especially if you've gone through a similar situation with your husband/wife/partner.