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    Unhappy Separation Anxiety?

    My dd has been going to preschool since October. She goes 3 days a week for 3 hrs each day. She's shy by nature and still doesn't like to go to school. She cries now at school and before we go (it is getting progressively worse) saying that she misses me.

    It's like this at night now too. Ever since she started having nightmares, she has been crawling in our bed in the middle of the night. I love her to pieces, and we have a great relationship, but I need my sleep, and she needs to get used to being away from me.

    Kathryn was never like this--she's always been outgoing. I don't know what to do any more.

    Has anyone been through something similar? Any advice/tips?

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    Michelle, I'm sorry, I don't have any advice. I know it's gotta be breaking your heart. I hope it gets easier.
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    Thanks Amy. She's just so laid back that I know her acting this way is really upsetting her. She has started making up nightmares (and telling her sister) just so she can come to our room at night. When I ask her about the nightmare, she says that she just missed me when she woke It's kind of funny because if our bed were bigger, I wouldn't mind having her with us at all. I love snuggling with them--but Dave and Lauren are both crazy sleepers, and I spend half the night without any room on the bed and getting clobbered while she flails about. LOL

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    Michelle, how old is Lauren?....I don't know exactly what to tell you as advice, but I did go through this with Daniel when he was 3.

    He used to go to activites twice a week for half a year, then all of a sudden when came the time to register him again, he totally refused to go back---Even if I wanted to send him, he was totally not cooperating, fighting not to go and trying to run way from the activity room...so I took him out from the activities...

    I'm not suggesting that you take her out of the preschool..I found it wasn't the best solution I did...

    But I always wondered if something happened there, which made him anxious and made him so negative about going back....this lasted for years---his first bday party was in grade 2....he never wanted to go anywhere without me...it was exhausting for me.

    Maybe something happened to Lauren, maybe nothing serious, but to her eyes it's big and she feel sanxious being separated from you..? It's just a thought...

    Good luck Michelle. It's not easy being a mom, don't you think?

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    I don't have much advice to offer either. I hope that this works itself out somehow. Maybe getting her a "special" friend to sleep with and someone she can take to school with her. Let her pick it out. Or maybe a tape recording of your voice talking to her if she wakes up in the middle of the night.


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