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    DH has been placed in a quit or be fired situation at work. Top management has changed and they have been firing and putting pressure on long term employees to quit for some time. DH is the last one on his team left. I'm just sorry that they have decided to make this personal -- he is a good worker and deserves so much better than this. But it is just one of those times where life is just plain unfair and there is nothing you can do about it but move on.

    This is not a desperation situation for us. We are fine. He still has 5 weeks of pay coming including vacation time. We have enough money in savings for 3 months living expenses. He was already looking for a job and has three strong prospects - he already had an interview scheduled for Monday that is the second step in a three step hiring process -- so hopefully he won't be out of work long.

    He is pretty upset so I have to be strong here. So I am taking a little time away from the frugal village. I will be spending a little time at a positive thinking forum, as well as continuing with my art and my writing. My major job will be keeping dh on his feet. I might be back when dh goes back to work. I wish you all the best.

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    for you and your hubby!!!
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    Yet ANOTHER FVer affected by a job loss!! We'll add you to the list!!! I'm glad your situation is not scary.....still, it will be a huge relief when he finds something else, which he WILL do, like all the rest of us that have been thru this. (my dh lost his job this last summer)
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    sending good thoughts to both of you

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    I hope you get through this quickly. It sounds like you have a very good plan in place. Good luck!

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    quiltergirl, sorry you are in this situation. I do hope you'll pop back in from time to time. I enjoy your posts.

    On another note... he didn't quit, did he? He should let them fire him and then file UI. If they don't have just cause... they'll pay.

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    I am glad that it seems so doable to you. But I am sorry for the emotional toll it seems to be taking on your DH. I agree he should not quit. If he does there will be no unemployment benefits to be had.

    Good luck!

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    Wishing you and your husband all the best.

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    What a @!%% situation. Great to hear your hubby is going strong with the job search. Sending you good thoughts. Take care.

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    Just stopped by for a minute to see it there were any responses on this. While I appreciate the concern expressed by some, we really are okay. This is a large international company with a team of attorneys on staff. Unemployement will not be an option. He is the last of his team to go -- it took so long with him because he really is a good employee. He won an award two weeks ago. It takes longer to find "cause" with a good employee. The best case senario here is to resign. A firing would do much more damage.

    We've been preparing for this for some time. He has watched as one by one his team members have been escorted to the door. He has been conducting an active job search while he still had the option of being selective. He has been looking to make a step upward in both position and salary. His experience, skills and education make him in demand in a major industry in our city. One of his friends had another job the next week. He currently has three prospects in the advanced stages of the hiring process. He could be back to work in the next few weeks. It is certainly not to the point of grabbing anything to just have a job, but he is more that willing to do that if it does get there.

    I am not falling apart now because I did that three months ago when after months of being threatened it appeared the end was indeed near. I'm just glad we've had as much time to prepare as we have. We are in much better shape for this now than when the team started being picked off. So I am not being unrealistic. I am not in denial. I am not cold and unfeeling about this. I've just had time to accept the inevitable and prepare to move on. Dh is already doing better than I've seem him in a long time -- just after one weekend. He knew it was coming, but when they chose to make it personal -- that really hurt. We will be okay -- really.
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    Good for you and your positive upbeat attitude.

    I am still sorry that your hubby has to go thru it though, how very stressful.

    I wonder why this company is going so far to get rid of people???? The folks here in our neck of the woods that are in the Technical community have been layed of with pink slips......

    Take care of yourself

    Good Luck to your hubby,
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    It's not that the jobs aren't still there. The team has been replaced with younger, "prettier" people. But age discrimination is very difficult to prove -- legally. That is part of why they are firing for "cause" to make it harder to sue. But it is starting to look more like a modeling agency than high finance over there.

    But the one thing I've learned in my 50 years is life isn't always fair and sometimes there isn't a blessed thing you can do about it.

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    He starts work Monday. Far from the idea job, but it will bring in money while he continues to look.

    He took this before our savings ran out so we are fine.

    Just thought I'd drop in and let the few people who might care know.

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    HOLD ON RIGHT THERE!!!!!!!!!!

    He is NOT being fired!
    He is being 'let go'. which is another term for 'laid off'
    PLEASE! don't let them intimidate him!

    There is a HUGE difference with firing and let go.

    He is fired if he didn't do his job. It's hard to prove that if he got an award 2 weeks ago.

    DO NOT LET HIM QUIT OR RESIGN! Let them 'let him go'

    He CAN file unemployment.


    DON"T LET THEM DO THAT TO HIM!
    grrrrrrrrr I'm so mad!!

    I'm going to have to change my 'mood' status bar now!


    NOTE: I wrote all that... and realized.. there was more to the thread! lol! so.. oh well. I'm STILL mad! lol!

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    I hope that it all works out 'just like it's supposed to' for you both. I really feel that things happen for a reason and sometimes that reason is just to test us to see if we're tough enough for the better things that are coming our way. Hang in there. This too shall pass and I'm thrilled to hear that he's found another job.

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