DH may finally be on board *update*
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 15 of 25
  1. #1
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    532
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    13

    Default DH may finally be on board *update*

    It has been 8mos and DH has had one uhoh moment. That is actually really good for him. He is cutting down on smoking and has tried to sell a few things. He picked up a side job and gave me a little blow money. He also did a side job in exchange for a much needed dog pen.

    He has been content to let me handle the spreadsheet and go over it with him about 2x a month. The more 0 balances I am able to show him on the debt snowball the more into this he seems to get. I do worry about how he will do when we get to the larger balances but I have about 1yr until I get to that bridge.

    A good side affect is that my shed and house are slowly being decluttered. We are finding way more to trash than to sell but it still feels good to get something accomplished.

  2. #2
    QM
    QM is offline
    Registered User QM's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    5,898
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    41

    Default

    That's great news, ansley! I'm glad your DH seems to be getting on board and your life is getting more organized. It sounds like you both are heading in the right direction.

  3. #3
    Super Moderator
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    not here
    Posts
    4,575
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    58

    Default

    Awesome! I think getting the spouse on board is one of the biggest challenges in debt reduction.

  4. Remove Advertisements
    FrugalVillage.com
    Advertisements
     

  5. #4
    jas
    jas is offline
    Registered User jas's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Florida Space Coast
    Posts
    1,933
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    1
    Rep Power
    26

    Default

    Just keep it up!

  6. #5
    Registered User Josephhgoins's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Morrisville, NC
    Posts
    904
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    19

    Default

    Good luck!!!

  7. #6
    Registered User dcompton's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Location
    Louisiana
    Posts
    7,521
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    12
    Rep Power
    42

    Default

    That is good news. You have a year of smaller successes to reinforce this before you hit the bigger, harder ones. Repetition makes habits, so by then he may be more committed than you anticipate. We'll hope so!

  8. #7
    Registered User mommy4ever's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2007
    Location
    Western Canada
    Posts
    3,244
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    158
    Rep Power
    24

    Default

    Awww... congrats! It really makes a difference when you have 2 in the battle against debt.

  9. #8
    Registered User frugalfranny's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    Location
    PNW in summer---SW in wnter.
    Posts
    12,986
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    71

    Default

    Way to go! Keep it up...........when he sees the debt reducing he will realize it is all a good thing............GOOD LUCK!

  10. #9
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    532
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    13

    Default

    DH is getting frustrated. Internet went out ($114), another surprise doctor bill (debt collector isn't sure how much we owe), hot water heater went out ($150), I somehow missed a phone bill in April 09 and I just found out (back in the days before DH was on board) ($108), his truck messing up and needs to be fixed.

    I can't get him to understand that we have cash flowed all (except doctor bill) and that is an achievement. I know he is thinking about the tool bill. With the snowball it should have been paid off last month and now it is looking like it will be July; if nothing else happens.

    I need another job.

  11. #10
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Location
    Canadian prairies
    Posts
    16,430
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    52
    Rep Power
    67

    Default

    Ansley, where are you at now? It's been awhile since you posted here. Is DH on board? Were you able to get back on track? Please update us!

  12. #11
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    532
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    13

    Default

    We have paid off about 32% of non-house debt in 15months.

    No new debt.

    But DH has given me reason in the past 2 months to worry. He has lied to me and he has started riding through car lots again (he always trades in his auto when it is almost paid off and the current one should be paid off in April). He always starts with you need something better and ends with him getting something better. Oct 30, 2010 he took me to a car lot and asked if I liked anything. I almost busted out in tears. I would have if the dc hadn't been with us.

  13. #12
    Moderator Ceashels's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    Location
    Baltimore, Md
    Posts
    4,028
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    2
    Rep Power
    38

    Default

    Maybe he needs to see you cry to realize that he doesn't really need a new car. Have you listed out all of the cars "you" needed to see that they were all really for him?

  14. #13
    Registered User Greebo's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Baltimore, Maryland
    Age
    51
    Posts
    8,566
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    83

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Ceashels View Post
    Maybe he needs to see you cry to realize that he doesn't really need a new car. Have you listed out all of the cars "you" needed to see that they were all really for him?
    That reminds me... *eyes your car*

  15. #14
    Registered User Trishagirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Northeastern Indiana
    Posts
    3,091
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Rep Power
    22

    Default

    Set a good example and he will follow. (;

  16. #15
    Registered User
    Join Date
    Aug 2005
    Location
    Canadian prairies
    Posts
    16,430
    Post Thanks / WTG / Hug
    Blog Entries
    52
    Rep Power
    67

    Default

    I can understand the problem with the big number debts. I find if I have a big expense in front of me then it is easy to get discouraged. I buy things to make me feel better. Maybe that is what your DH is doing? Big {{{hugs}}} to you. It hurts when your partner lies to you.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. DH may finally be on board
    By ansley in forum Getting spouse on board
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 07-30-2009, 03:54 PM
  2. Well... It finally happened... (an update)
    By cmdarlin in forum General Chat
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 01-23-2009, 12:19 PM
  3. Yay!Finally a good update about my job!
    By kettlecorn in forum Financial hardship
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 08-10-2008, 10:34 PM
  4. UPDATE: I think it Finally hit
    By KKCondrey in forum Support
    Replies: 28
    Last Post: 11-17-2004, 12:05 AM
  5. Back to the drawing board....cry....UPDATE
    By guest2 in forum Education
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 04-28-2004, 04:38 PM

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •