Yesterday I went on an outing with some people from church and managed to keep my mouth shut around one lady. This one lady can be a real pill and I went out of my way to be friendly and let her talk. Didn't do too well with the minister though. Oh well. She was nice enough to give me a ride.
Today I haven't been around many people. I went out this morning to stitch/knit with a bunch of ladies. I took time to go around to each of them and made a point of asking the ones I don't normally talk much to at least two questions about what they were working on. It's amazing how they open up and talk when you do that.
02-11-2009, 10:27 PM
Okay everyone, how's it going? No activity for 4 days. Are you running out of steam or simply not posting? I've been forgetting. I've been pretty busy.
Saturday was crafting group. I spent the morning with DH at home, even though I had errands to do. We just needed to spend some time together. At crafting group I worked with the other ladies to help the special needs girl sort out some life stuff.
Saturday evening I went to another church - a more lively one. It was interesting. I knew of one of the women there. She's had a really rough time lately. I made sure to go over and talk to her and let her know that people outside her immediate faith community were praying for her. She was very encouraged by that and opened right up to talk about her situation. This is a small town and people know a lot of what is going on.
Sunday was church. I had to leave right after the service. The floors had been waxed and really smelled...even though they'd aired the place out. I got home with a headache and really stuffed up (allergic reaction). But DH wanted to do more fun stuff with me. I was surprised, delighted, and a bit wary. I was not feeling well. But when he suggested the art gallery I did not have the heart to say no. We got there and very little was on display. They were changing exhibits. We ran into two people we knew and took the time to chat.
One was a man I'd fixed a rug for in the past. He wanted me to repair it again. His cat had got at it. I had decided I wasn't going to fix anymore rugs, but as this man is an old friend of DH's, I decided I would agree to do it.
DH and I decided to go up to the gym and workout and sit in the whirlpool. It meant a late supper.
Actually, I was so tired by the time we got out of the pool (it was only 7 pm), that I suggested we go to a local buffet for supper. We actually had quite a time deciding where to go, but finally settled on the buffet.
On the way there we passed Humpty's Restaurant and DH commented he'd never been in one before. Well! I decided that would be rectified soon! We went the next morning for breakfast. And found they have a special deal for people over 55. As DH is over 55 he endured some good natured ribbing from me and filled out the form for the card he needs to get 10-20% off whenever we eat at Humpty's.
Errand day on Monday. I was able to find some homeopathic medicine that has been difficult to locate lately. I was quite friendly (ie. profuse in my thanks) to the salesclerk who went in the back to look for it for me and chatted her up a bit. You know, I kind of like this being kind to people thing. It makes you slow down and appreciate the things and people in your life!
Monday night was Bible study at my house. I offer it up for the ladies. We had a good study in which I served goodies. I guess my kindness was that two of us more talkative ones got together and decided we weren't going to talk so much at Bible study. We want to hear what the others have to say.
Tuesday. A friend came over in the afternoon and we talked and prayed. I spent a lot of time listening to her. Sometimes it seems like nothing gets solved, but it does allow her to get things off her chest. And it does the same for me. We decided we were not being very supportive of our minister and prayed over that...as well as making an agreement to do better. It didn't help that I had this interesting dream about the minister Tuesday morning before waking up.
Tuesday night was a stitching group meeting. I walked home with a neighbor and enjoyed her company. I also went out of my way to talk to a lady I didn't recognize. Turns out she's new to the group and had actually missed a couple of month's of meetings. I was able to connect her up with another lady with similar interests.
Today...I volunteered (okay, agreed when asked) to work a funeral (in the kitchen) for the church. On the way home my ride was talking about being cold all the time and wishing she had an electric blanket. Well, I inherited two from Mom and we don't use them. So I offered her one on the spot. She wanted to pay for it, but I told her it came to me free, it was hers free. Besides, this woman is always driving me places and refuses to let me fill up her gas tank!
Oh, and sometime on the weekend I finished the prayer shawl for the mission too.
02-11-2009, 10:33 PM
Oh my Peanut, you have been busy spreading the kindness around!!! Good for you!!!
I haven't posted lately either because of my FIL in the hospital we go back and forth at least 2 or 3 times a day.
I cannot remember if I did do anything to be kind to people the last little while. I remember one day helping a lady at the hospital who had 3 small children in tow and needed a hand getting them in from the rain. Smiling, saying hi, always saying thanks to the nurses is pretty much all I have done lately.
Will promise to do better in the future. You are such an inspiration Jean! :)
02-11-2009, 10:45 PM
Debbie-cat, going to see your FIL in the hospital every day IS a major kindness! I know you'd do it anyway, but you'd be surprised how many people wouldn't do that. In DH's family some of his siblings didn't bother to come see their dad (even tho they knew he was in hospital and ailing) until the day he died. I think that's sad.
I think some of the people on this thread are much better at being kind to strangers than I am. I kind of stick with my sphere of influence locally. Being plugged in to community groups really helps. Also, not having children in tow makes it easier to do things for other people. Plus DH and I are set up how we want to be, so we can offer time, talent and resources to help others.
I also hang out with people of like mind. And we encourage each other to be kind to others. One of the things we were talking about at prayer meeting tonight was banding together as a group to buy some Meals-on-Wheels for a member of the congregation who is shut-in for a short duration of time.
02-20-2009, 05:38 PM
Not much to report in the kindness challenge. I've been rather grumpy lately. I'm trying, but some days it's hard. I purposely did not offer a young lady a ride home the other night from a church event we attended together. She lives two blocks from the church and it was a well lit nice clear night. She's been taking advantage of some of us and our generosity. In return, we're not offering anymore.
So I negotiated the turnover of the electric blanket the other day, and today the lady phoned me very happy, contented and grateful, telling me how much she was enjoying the blanket. I'm really glad I could help her.
02-20-2009, 06:52 PM
I went through the drive thru at a local resturant yesterday morning and paid the check for the person behind me. I bet they were shocked.
02-27-2009, 01:53 PM
That was really kind of you gizzymo. I can't think of much I've done recently. I simply haven't been out and about that much. The weather has been way too cold...again...
I did provide 24 m of fabric for a project to a group I belong to. Most of it was gifted to me, so it wasn't really a hardship. I did feel good about being able to donate that much though. And it's not all bad fabric either...if I do say so myself! They need 200 m total, so I put out an SOS on the Internet freebie sites and am picking up more fabric to donate to them.
03-02-2009, 04:43 PM
I enjoy reading everyone's post. I'm still trying to spread a little kindness by smiling more & chatting w/others at the grocery store & gas station. I admit my circle it small, but it does make a difference. I'm slowing down more when I'm out on errands & notice others around me. It really puts me in a better frame of mind & it seems to spread. Over the weekend, I had a nice conversation at the consignment shop as I purchased a book. I must admit I bought a 2nd book since they were 25% off & the lady was so helpful.
03-02-2009, 06:50 PM
I'm going to be doing a RAOK here in a bit. I just have to get my thoughts together and pm someone.
Don't forget everyone....it's Monday and time to be kind to someone.
Peanut, you're and inspiration for all of us. Great job.
03-02-2009, 09:02 PM
Yes, peanut, homesteadmamma is right. You are in inspiration! I do my kindness throughout each day but I always forget to post. I am, though, very concious of it and alway do my best.
03-03-2009, 12:45 PM
thanks you two. Kindness is a habit I think. Sometimes I have rough days, but it always helps to remember that sometimes just getting on-line and posting an answer or encouragement to someone is also a kindness. And you two have given me a kindness today. Thanks for the warm fuzzy feelings you two!
03-03-2009, 03:02 PM
Today when I was in the city, I helped a little old lady find something at Goodwill. She was so sweet. :)
03-03-2009, 06:22 PM
A friend I hadn't heard from in awhile phoned today needing to talk. I invited her over for tea, even though I had my afternoon planned for other things. I'm glad I did. She paid me a complement at the end of the visit, saying she always felt better after visiting me. I've achieved my goal then! We both struggle with chronic illnesses.
03-08-2009, 12:10 PM
Several things in relation to church I guess...
~ the special needs girl has been showing up to our crafting group. I cornered her on her specific learning disabilities yesterday because she also goes to choir with me...and I noticed her struggling over the words to one of the pieces we're going to sing. I asked her if her comprehension was higher than her reading level. She gave a sigh of relief and said 'yes'. I told her to tell the choir director, who came to crafting later. She did and the choir director is letting her copy out the words to the pieces so she can practice it at home. That way she will be prepared to sing it when she comes. The choir director will not let her take the music home...she is a bit paranoid about copyright issues and people returning the music.
~ For my part...I offered to loan this girl some Bible on videos that I inherited from Mom. So today I'm taking the book of Matthew to church for her, to see if it works for her. She's been making do with Veggietales, but it's really beneath her. And her bible is just a story bible, not a study bible. There must be something out there for people with decoding/pattern recognition problems, but who have relatively high thinking levels!
~ I bought some DVDs to donate to the church library.
~ A group of us decided on the next Bible study we want to do. We can round up enough books except one. I offered to buy a copy and let everyone else use what we have. I am in a better financial position than they are...thanks to my long stint with frugality.
~ We found out the girls mother had her at the casino gambling the other night...in front of a social worker who was also there gambling. Not her social worker, but a relative. The girl was excited she'd won some money. We had a talk... You don't take special needs individuals into a casino to learn to gamble. Apparently social services have washed their hands of this girl because of this habit of her mother's, and because the girl refuses to move out of home, away from mom. She feels she needs to take care of her mom. Hmmm...a few mind games being played there methinks! Mom is using her earnings to pay half the rent on their apartment. And to support her lifestyle while she loses at the casino. The DD also works, so there is no excuse for her having to stay at home with mom anymore. She would surely qualify for a group home...which several of us have suggested to her. But ultimately, she is going to have to say 'no' to her mother when she comes asking her to go out to supper. Because the mom picks a restaurant near the casino and then says after supper, 'let's go over to the casino for a bit'. The daughter seems incapable of saying 'no'. Claims her mother 'forces' her to go to the casino. Not sure how, but that's the claim... I don't know... I'm a little frustrated with this if I let myself be. I have to keep reminding myself to stick to feeding her spiritually and in the areas where I can help. The rest is up to her or someone else.
03-08-2009, 04:07 PM
Was given a book the other day I have no use for, but it was interesting. I spoke to the minister at church about it (it was a religious book of order) and she suggested someone right away. I gave it to a very thankful man.