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    Red face Ex-wife wants her presence known

    I lived with my husband for three years before we were married. During that time, his ex-wife never knew us. After she met me, she started sending gifts to relatives that she hasn't noticed in years, if she sees me anywhere in town, I get a telephone call later in the day from someone asking for her. I once had an appointment to have my oil changed, and the garage owner's wife is a friend of my husband's ex-wife. My father-in-law got a telephone message from someone saying "my appointment was cancelled." I don't even know my father-in-law telephone number without looking it up.

    What do you think of this goofy, 57 year old woman is up to?????

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    nothing good.
    sounds like a little bit of jealousy honestly.

    if you give it credence, it'll continue, otherwise, ok hopefully, it'll stop after a while.

    but if it's been an on-going thing for year(s), then I'd ask dh to talk to her... and if that doesnt work... have his lawyer talk to her.

    when do ppl really get the time to do this kinda crap?!? LoL

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    Yep, it's jealousy, but she needs to grow up is what it sounds like to me. I also think your DH needs to speak to her about her childish behaviour.

    You shouldnt have to deal with that crap.

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    You're not going to get a lawyer to do anything about a woman who sends presents to ex inlaws or whose friends call up looking for her.

    I say ignore her. Avoid her if you can. You'll regret getting into a confrontation with her and if she can't let go after all this time it's not like she's going to say "Oh sorry, was I bugging you? I'll stop."

    As long as her little games are harmless there's really not much you can or should do. It's probably just a little cry for attention or an attempt to cause a confrontation. Who knows, maybe she's lonely.

    Def don't have your hubs talk to her. That's probably exactly the attention she wants.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FrugalMomof3 View Post
    Yep, it's jealousy, but she needs to grow up is what it sounds like to me. I also think your DH needs to speak to her about her childish behaviour.

    You shouldnt have to deal with that crap.
    On the other hand, neither should the DH. The crazy ex isn't his responsibility anymore either.

    The behavior sounds like harassment - time to contact local law enforcement, tell them what's going on, and request their advice and assistance. Put the tax dollars to work!

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    I think I agree with NOT having DH speak to her, that's probably what she wants anyways, so I recant that statement in my post.

    It is however a sort of harrassment BUT I don't think the local law enforcement would do anything about it, unless she is harming you.

    Only thing you can do now is ignore it, maybe she's doing it just for the attention.

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    get caller ID, don't answer if you don't recognize the number. If it is an emergency, they will call back or leave a message.

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    Thanks ladies, I think it is jealousy and attention getting. After she got her divorce, her social life was full, but now that my husband has a life without her. She can't deal with it.

    Also what does "DH" mean?? I pretty new to Furgal

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    Ignore her as long as it's unharmful and immature nonesense. She's just looking for attention.
    If it get's worse contact law enforcement.

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    DH, Dear husband or Damn husband, depending on your mood.

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    Thanks for enlightening me about DH!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by auntbopera View Post
    Thanks ladies,
    ahem.... we ain't all ladies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rcannon View Post
    ahem.... we ain't all ladies.
    Apparently you're a tractor. Cool, a talking tractor! I could sell tickets!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Greebo View Post
    Apparently you're a tractor. Cool, a talking tractor! I could sell tickets!
    You and I can go on tour, a talking tractor and a talking cup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nishu View Post
    DH, Dear husband or Damn husband, depending on your mood.

    heehee, i like that one.

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