Boy am I upset

[fernykins]

Why is that the more I do for my #2 son the more he runs me down. He moved into my home and he got custody of his children and asked me to help him. So I have been taking care of his kids for over 3 years. 24/7 with almost the only breaks I get is if I'm in the hospital... Some break . He's been paying the space rent of 250 a month and ulilities. So he decided I'm not god enougfh for him so the boys will be going to their mothers and he is moving out. He knows I have no income and it was his Idea to move in and take care of everything. He knows I'm sick. I guess 2 the thing that hurts the most is the way he fills about me and losing the boys I've had them forever. Just a very sad day today
Fern

[Cricketlegs]

What led up tp his moving out and giving up custody of his children?

[fernykins]

I think hes doing dope and I stoped him from beating on his 13 yos and screaming at his 11 yos with downs
Fern

[Greebo]

With that bit of added information, its sounding more like its better that *HE*'s out of their lives.

[fernykins]

The mother's just as bad..........Thats why he got them........ she lives in a 2 bedroom apt with her boyfriend his mother his brother and his wife and their baby and anothr brother.........Tell me thats good for them.
Fern

[voodidit]

It's not as bad as a dad doing drugs and hurting them, either mentally or physically.

I'm sorry for what you are having to deal with sweetie.

[Katybird]

If he is doing drugs and abusing his children it is actually a blessing that they are going to their mother's home and he is leaving.

[fernykins]

The mother doing drugs and not taking care of the boys is why he left her. She was spending 400 or more a month on drugs.........if it wasn't drugs it was booze. She would not take them to the dr when they were sick. The kids watched her many boyfriends beat her up. He boyfriend now is a drunk and he doesn't like to spend money on the boys...... Once or twice a month for a day or 2 is ok....... they fight alot.
Fern

[madhen]

Sounds like a situation to get CPS involved in.

Either way, though, it sounds like it is ultimately in your best interest to not be in the middle of it anymore.

[fernykins]

Well I think I'm goig to file for temporary gaurdianship of the boys this is where the 15 yo wants to be. and its not like I haven't had them . Ijust feel so hurt and the 13yo is depressed........not a good day.
Fern

[FrugalMomof3]

I say file that petition for custody, that's for sure. They need stability in their life and I am sure that is what you can give them.

Now as for your DS, any reason WHY he suddenly has a change of heart? If he's doing dope then that surely isn't something the kids need in their lives. God Bless you and those boys!

[inneedofhope]

Yes, file for guardianship! if it is awarded, she should be able to get child support or other financial help for their care as well.
your son is grown now, it's time to stop doing for him and hold him accountable for his actions.
good luck to you and the boys.

[Greebo]

Sounds like a situation to get CPS involved in.

What madhen said! Get CPS INVOLVED!

[cab54]

Yes, call CPS, fernykins. Don't let those kids go back to their mom---or their dad.

[ktsmama]

Sending prayers for you and your grandchildren.

Good Luck!