What one thing would you change about your significant other?

**fixer** · 12-01-2008, 12:42 AM

It struck me today that my wife has one thing that makes me crazy. She can be very negative at times. She gets down on herself and has a generally negative outlook on everything. She expects failure. I tried to think of another and couldn't. I don't know if this is the only one, or I have just got used to everything else. If you could change one thing about your significant other, what would it be?

**nvmommyx6** · 12-01-2008, 12:47 AM

Dwelling on the past, things that his ex did to him and his kids to be specific! I would like for all of them to LET IT GO already!!!
But they all have a tendancy of dwelling on the past in general and I hate that!!!!!

**pat in east texas** · 12-01-2008, 08:53 AM

Turn on the side away from me when he snores!

**InDiAnNa** · 12-01-2008, 09:40 AM

His selfish, immature attitude towards children and parenthood.

He HATE HATE HATES the idea of being a father, and makes it quite clear that he is not having any. I have told him that I AM, and that he has up to a year before we are married to grow up, change his attitude, and realize how much it means to me We plan to marry in 2012 when I am 25 so plenty of time. I so hope that he will come round to the idea, cos if he doesn't.... I don't know, don't really want to think about that. I lost a daughter 4 years ago, he is well aware of the heartaches this subject brings me.

**mandi0808** · 12-01-2008, 09:53 AM

He needs to learn responsibility and quit being lazy and letting me take care of it all and bailing us out.
Get up, get a job!
Quit whining about having to actually do some work to make money!
Quit trying to make a quick buck and realize that you actually have to work for it!

**Lady_V** · 12-01-2008, 09:58 AM

If I could change one thing about the Old Man... it would actually be his feet... they cause him a lot of pain and he is on them all day long.

**jamie79** · 12-01-2008, 09:58 AM

His snoring

**FrugalMomof3** · 12-01-2008, 10:48 AM

Gosh.... I would have to say his sexual appetite.

**stinkbug** · 12-01-2008, 10:57 AM

Not a thing......

Seriously? I can' t think of anything I would want to change about him. He's not perfect, but he's perfect for ME!

**forHISglory** · 12-01-2008, 11:13 AM

My hubby is so awesome! I really had to think a bit before coming up with this: I wish he would sort thru paperwork more quickly. He tends to let it pile up. I would say in a total relationship that it's a minor point!

**PaulaMM** · 12-01-2008, 11:31 AM

He gets in a bad mood so easily and over the most ridiculous reasons. He'll sit on his side of the couch and sulk over any little thing and ignore us except to snap at the kids over little stuff. He can be really sarcastic to our 14 year old, which just flies all over me. Doesn't he get that we won't have him in our home in a few very short years????

Plus, he works with a lot of younger, unmarried men without kids. One of his coworkers just inherited a huge some of money. DH is surrounded by men who, when they want something, go and buy it. There are few bills and no family to consider for most of these young men.

He wasn't like this when he was younger. I think his "new" job is mostly to blame. He works with a bunch of dissatisfied, whining, backstabbing men and is taking on some of their characteristics. For some reason, those guys feel as if the company should give them everything they want, how and when they want it. Working for a railroad with a union has done DH and his coworkers a great disservice. They should feel grateful and blessed to have secure jobs in this time of financial shakiness but they're all acting like overindulged, entitlement b!tches.

I just want DH to realize how lucky we are to have what we do. He engineers a train over a bridge where a group of homeless live. Why can't he see how blessed we are?

Wow, I didn't know exactly how much this irked me until I started writing it down.

**G'MaDebbie** · 12-01-2008, 11:35 AM

I would change his back and neck. He is in pain all the time. If I could take that away for him, I would.

**TexasPeanut** · 12-01-2008, 11:46 AM

I'm in tune with the other ladies that would take away hurting from them. There really isn't anything I would change about my husband, he's my hero and perfect in my eyes. He had a hard childhood including abuse and lived a rough life for awhile after that. He's a kind man to everyone, willing to offer help to anyone that needs it. He works hard to provide for us and if I could make one change it would be to heal his back, feet and hands. He's on his feet all day on concrete in steel toe boots, banging his hands into everything and busting them up from working (he's a mechanic) and he has degenerative disc disease in his lower back. For all that he is to me, for what he is to his son, and just for being so giving to us always making us smile and laugh everyday, I would take all of that pain from him if I could.

**The Muse** · 12-01-2008, 12:39 PM

I wish he'd be more romantic and take the lead on things more often. He's kind of like being married to an annoying little brother sometimes. I'd like for once to not have to worry about if the car insurance is renewed, the bills are paid, vacation reservations are made, etc. I handle it all.

**[email protected]** · 12-01-2008, 12:56 PM

My husband is indecisive.
He can't make a decision about anything on the spot. Sometimes it drives me crazy. He doesn't know what he wants to eat, wear, vacation, etc. This can be extremely annoying sometimes.

Funny thing is at work he's in charge of making major decisions and gets a lot done. Maybe the bigger things are easier to decide upon.