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    I separated from my first husband several times before we divorced. I'm sure glad it worked out that way too because I sure appreciate my current dh of 16 years all the more.

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    Well we have been separated for 2 months now. I am renting a granny suite from my mom. I have had to go on social assistance to be able to support DD and me. I have my good days and the days where all I want to do is cry. I must say though that I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. I am not so stressed out about him coming home and everything else that was going on. I even saved some money to take an online course to put towards medical transcription certificate, so I can eventually get off the system and support DD and I. DD is doing better as well her behavior has changed and her tantrums are less which is nice. I feel like I am getting control over my life. I don't have to ask for money to go by groceries; large sums of money aren't disappearing from my bank account. I don't have to ask to go out, not that I really went anywhere any ways.
    We are still going to go to couple therapy down the road but right now I need to figure things out for myself.
    Thanks for all your support guys. It is still a struggle we have been together since I was 16, and I have my days where I am scared about being a single mother but I really feel this is the best thing for us right now.

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    I didn't go back. I knew he would not change.

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    Thank you for sharing and thank you for this post. It was very timely for me.

    We decided to separate Mon. He is supposed to be out by Sat. I already have plans for his room (my guest room/office/exercise room.

    This is our second time. First time was in Jan of 2004. I went back basically cause I was scared. This time I decided HE was going, not me. Our house (we were renting in 2004) was obtained thru my military service in a senior park where he is not "old enough" yet to live in. I am disabled (not receiving any money) on vo-rehab now.

    He has not changed, I have only gotten worse. I am pleased right now. We will see but I am not betting on a reconcile and this thread has just reinforced that for me.
    EmilyD

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