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    Default I found this post on another site..I believe the poster is our own Sunshine?

    It's called Marriage reminder ...It's a very strong message..and get ready to shed some tears.I know I did..It's a very long post.


    THIS IS SO POWERFUL AND A MUST READ FOR MARRIED COUPLES (AN EYE OPENER),
    single couples, AND


    FOR THOSE WHO DESIRE TO MARRY.





    Be Blessed!





    When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and


    said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I


    observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth.


    But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised


    the topic calmly.





    She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly,


    why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the


    chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night we didn't talk


    to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had


    happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory


    answer; she had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I did not love


    her anymore. I just pitied her!





    With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that


    she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced


    at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of


    her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time,


    resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved


    Dew so dearly.





    Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to


    see. To me, her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce


    which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer


    now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing


    something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and


    fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.





    When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not


    care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented


    her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a


    month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we


    both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were


    simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to


    disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had


    something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out


    bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's


    duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front d oor every morning. I


    thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I


    accepted her odd request.





    I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and


    thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face


    the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact


    since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her


    out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us,


    "daddy is holding mommy in his arms." His words brought me a sense of pain.


    From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten


    meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; do not


    tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her


    down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone


    to the office.





    On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my


    chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't


    looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not


    young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying!


    Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had


    done to her.





    On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy


    returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On


    the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing


    again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the


    month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.





    She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tri ed on quite a few dresses


    but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have


    grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the


    reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me. She had


    buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached


    out and touched her head.





    Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To


    him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part


    of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him


    tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind


    at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom,


    through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck


    softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like ou r wedding


    day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held


    her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I


    held her tightly and said, I had not noticed that our life lacked intimacy.








    I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the


    door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked


    upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want


    the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my


    forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.


    Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably


    because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we


    didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her


    into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us


    part. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then


    slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.





    At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.


    The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll


    carry you out every morning until death do us apart.





    The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship.


    It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank,


    blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but


    cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's


    friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Have


    a real happy marriage!





    If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. Bu t if you do, you


    just might save a marriage.

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    Great post! I really enjoyed it.

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    Such a sweet story.

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    Wow...thanks for the touching post.

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    Awww--I love that.

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    I got that as an email once. It's sweet. But if i were the wife, i would leave the guy for having an affair in the first place.

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    A very touching and oh so true story. How we can take for granted those we love the most.

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    this was a beautiful story, thank you so
    much for shareing this with me.

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    wow! what an eye opener......

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    Chilling...

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    Wow. How can that be real?

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    Not sure that it is real JohnP but coming from someone who has been married for 31 years I can see how it could be.

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    I'm sure I'd like something like that to be real. I've not seen it in my experience...

    Why are guys always the bad guys in relationship stories?

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    John I have seen as many women be the bad guys as well. But gender aside, this is a nice reminder. Thanks for sharing it.

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    Thanks for sharing. Very touching and reminds us that we all might need a wake up call every once-in-a while!!

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