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    Default This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means

    "True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

    And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do."

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    Nice if more people understood that. In my case: quitting that awful job and sleeping w/ my dog instead of my husband (who snores and complains when I do - the dog doesn't complain..)

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    I agree with the basic idea. However, I do not like how she portrays exercise as this horrible thing you have to do maintain your health. Exercise can be fun. Her attitude about healthy food also makes it seem like a sacrifice to eat healthy. The is lots of food that is healthy and tasty.

    This whole self care doesn't usually feel good when you do it attitude is troubling to me.

    Life should be joyful. You can be joyful and take care of yourself and be a responsible adult.
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    This sentence was good: "True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from."
    Total paid/saved: $214 900
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    To do: $90 000

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    I have thought about this some more. I would like to add that enjoying salt baths and chocolate cake does not mean you have a life you need to escape from.

    I see a lot of posts online, especially on the "simple living" topic, that talking about this ideal life. Generally it is someone who quit a stressful job to make a living as a lifestyle blogger, book author, speaker, workshop leader, etc. This is not really a viable solution for most people. I have a decent job. It is not usually stressful and I do not have to work overtime. I am reasonably good at what I do. It is better than many jobs I have had in the past. Yet simple working full time and commuting can sometimes leave me worn out.

    It is not a horrible life, but not some idealized dream life either.

    So some kind of in between path is needed. Like a self care guru that does not lead with "quit your stressful job."
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    Quote Originally Posted by gaja View Post
    This sentence was good: "True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from."
    yes that is so true! and simple things can make you happy

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    Quote Originally Posted by KathyB View Post
    I have thought about this some more. I would like to add that enjoying salt baths and chocolate cake does not mean you have a life you need to escape from.

    I see a lot of posts online, especially on the "simple living" topic, that talking about this ideal life. Generally it is someone who quit a stressful job to make a living as a lifestyle blogger, book author, speaker, workshop leader, etc. This is not really a viable solution for most people. I have a decent job. It is not usually stressful and I do not have to work overtime. I am reasonably good at what I do. It is better than many jobs I have had in the past. Yet simple working full time and commuting can sometimes leave me worn out.

    It is not a horrible life, but not some idealized dream life either.

    So some kind of in between path is needed. Like a self care guru that does not lead with "quit your stressful job."

    yes most things you have to take with a grain of salt. I think you have to learn to be content too inside yourself. know what you want and what is important to you. getting on with things. like kids complaining about scrubbing toilets or dishes etc. well you learn takes longer to complain and bitch and more energy...about it then do it. you may not like doing it but it is life.

    balance is the key and when something that comes along to throw it out of whack ..sometimes you need to ride it out and sometimes you make changes. and sometimes it comes up slowly and you don't notice until you aren't happy.

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    what strikes me as funny about this, is every life needs an escape. There's no such thing as the perfect life, unless you turn into a hermit and never interact with anyone else in the world.

    What i'm getting at is that human involvement is going to skew the perfect life you're trying to make no matter what you do, and that means you'll always need an escape of some sort to get back on track. Whether that's a pillow you can scream into in the closet in the bedroom, eating chocolate cake in a tub with bath salts, playing Xbox or similar and losing yourself in the game, or reading a book and losing yourself in the story. I think the road, so to speak, to find the perfect life is making the life that suits you best, and knowing it's okay to escape when needed.

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    Yes, there is no such thing as a perfect life. I think many people present their lives in a kind of idealized way. That just makes people feel bad when they compare their lives to them.

    There is a lot of "motivational" stuff out there that puts out the belief you can have a perfect life. You can encourage people to have better lives, but striving for a perfect life will just make you frustrated for falling short.

    Even if I did not have to work and had all the money I would ever need, I would still have to deal with things like illness, bad weather, bad traffic, crying babies in public places and all sorts of imperfections.
    KathyB

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