Not really a single mum, but... Help!!!
I need advice.
At present my family lives apart. My husband, daughter and granddaughter in the UK, and my son and I in Canada (hoping to move here; son on study permit here).
Anyway, for the past two years my son has become more and more difficult to be with, especially the last year of being here in Canada.
He is 17, so some 'problems' are to be expected. I got them with my daughter (BIG problems), but never thought it would happen with DS (I guess I was hoping).
My son is making my life miserable!!!
I recently found out that he had been skipping school (only found out because I received a letter from the principal), which could really jeopardize our plans of moving here (if he gets expelled) .
That's not the biggest issue I have though.
His attitude towards me is just downright disgusting.
He is totally disrespectful (keeps telling me he has no respect for me), doesn't want to help, is argumentative, raises his voice at me..., to name but a few.
All he wants to do is be with his friends. If it was up to him, he would move out and live with his friends. He hates where we live (very rural; 1/2 hr drive from all his friends, so only really gets to see them during school time, and at weekends), and would move into town in a split second given the chance (which is obviously not going to happen).
The money he had saved up in his account has all gone now, so he has no money to buy his cigarettes (bad habit I don't agree with), which is leading to even more arguments, as I won't give him any money for them. I mean, come on... Why should I give him money when I get absolutely nothing in return??!!
I still tell him that I love him, although he treats me bad every day. Just this morning, before he got on the school bus, I told him 'I do love you. I always have, and I always will.' The reply I got was 'Well, I never will!'
All I want to do is cry, but I'm starting to run out of tears. I wouldn't cry in front of him anyway, as he would only laugh at me.
I have tried to talk to him so many times; been nice; tried being tough. He is currently grounded, which is making it even worse.
What shall I do? What can I do?