How to start divorce proceedings?
We've been together for 18 years, married for 16. I need to get myself "situated" before I tell him I am serious about calling it quits, tho I have no doubt he will be relieved. He struggles with any responsibility/issue other than work. He has always been a great provider, but I have done everything else. We have four children, three of them have medical, emotional, and educational disabilities. I am tired of handling it all by myself. If I'm going to be treated like I am "on my own" when issues arise, then I really do want to BE alone. I have no income--we have a child with chronic fatigue. I left my job a month ago to care for him. I was working 50+ hours a week and still expected to do everything. It was too much. I will need to rely on some kind of assistance. I have no clue how to do this--esp if we are still legally married? Has anyone ever gone thru the process and needed assistance right off the bat? I'm going to suggest he move to my mother's rental property and to pay the mortgage and utilities in lieu of child support. I have a car that is paid for. I will need $ for food, clothing, gas and car ins. I will apply for food stamps and disability for my son. I don't need heating assistance, as we heat with wood and I have enough trees on our property to last a long while. What else do I need? Am I missing something major? How do I get started? TIA