It's Official Tomorrow

**mom2three** · 08-06-2007, 08:09 PM

Tomorrow I meet with my boss to be told that my position is being eliminated (I am returning from parental leave). The university is supposed to offer severance pay or another position so I do not know quite how it will all work out. I have gone through some of the grieving process, but since I set up the lab and put so much of my life and work into it, I am still sad. Our income will be cut in half compared to when I was working full time. Things will be tight, but with all the things I have learned, we should be okay. Hopefully by tomorrow I will be over the funk I am now in. I have 3 young children (6, 3, and almost 1) so it doesn't make a lot of sense to get a job unless the pay is very good and I can focus on it, but I will miss the scientific research. Take care - I just need to let out a bit.

**Jaded** · 08-06-2007, 08:23 PM

I'm sorry your life is changing so drastically. It's hard to adapt to a new job, new lifestyle, all at one time.

**FrugalMomof3** · 08-06-2007, 08:41 PM

I am sorry to hear your going through such drastic changes so fast but I am there now as well. DH lost his job a little over a month ago thus now collecting unemployment which is 3/4 of what he took home and paying child support so we've had to be really frugal.

Also, are you able to collect unemployment?

**mom2three** · 08-06-2007, 09:02 PM

I have actually been blessed in that my parental leave had government benefits and I knew this was a possibility. I was unofficialy told a few months ago, but they were trying to get a different position through HR and I am not sure of the status of that position. I think it will be good to be home with my kids, but it is a real mindset change after working for my own money since I was six years old. My father always ranted about everything being his even though Mom had a job and when hubby said somthing last week about everything in the house being his, I jumped all over him. I am still adjusting to the SAHW/SAHM. I am used to paying my own way with everything and although I trust my husband, he threatened for years to quit his job when he was disatisfied so that plays in my mind as well.

**emily_hope** · 08-06-2007, 09:05 PM

I am so sorry that your life is changing so much so fast. I do hope things will work out for you. When one door closes, another door opens. Best of luck!

**Darlene** · 08-06-2007, 09:08 PM

You go ahead & roll with the punches, new opportunities ahead for you, really good stuff you wouldn't have thought of. Hang in & hang on. Wishing the best for you & your family.

**Mom23boys** · 08-07-2007, 09:58 AM

Originally Posted by emily_hope

I am so sorry that your life is changing so much so fast. I do hope things will work out for you. When one door closes, another door opens. Best of luck!

Hoping the new door opens to a brighter future!

**baxjul** · 08-07-2007, 10:14 AM

Wishing you good luck!

**JustJoy** · 08-07-2007, 11:56 AM

It's going to be ok

**mom2three** · 08-07-2007, 11:03 PM

Thanks everyone. It went as well as possible today and I will get 4 mos severance (so I can pay off one of my big debts anyway). We have been cutting costs so now I just need to get more serious about things. My oldest child (age 6) is so excited though so I can't help but smile a bit. I still had some tears today about the job though as I sacrificed a lot for it (and it extended my Ph.D. by about 4 years!). I was thinking of you today FrugalMomof3 as it was raining (seems like that happens a lot on my most important days!). We will be okay - thanks for reading/listening.