[struglew3kids]

I got a call from my ex. He called me here at work as I don't have a ph# at home and thanks to him I had my cel. phone disc. he left me with a huge bill. So I don't have a phone. I am working on getting a prepaid but have been looking into them very carefully. Anyway before he moved out of state he told our boys and me that he would be sending them a cell phone so that they can keep in touch. He hasn't. So he calls me to see how he can talk to the kids. I ask him what happened to the cell phone he promised them or at least a calling card. Nope can't do it because he is not working. So I said well you don't expect me to pay for them to call you do you? He had called my oldest son' Cell phone as our kids go to his home after school. My son only has a cell phone, so why should he spend his minutes so that my ex talk to my boys. If my kids wanted to talk to him, I would probably do it for them. I do ask them, and they tell me they don't feel like talking to him. So why should I spend my money? I mean he has money to pay his cell phone every month but he can't spare $5 for a calling card?
Do you think that maybe I am being difficult or am I right to feel this way?

 

[Daisygirl]

I don't think you are being difficult. It is the very least he can do if he wants to talk to his kids.

He is a deadbeat, and deadbeats always try to make others feel like they are responsible for the deadbeat's behavior. Make your decisions with the children's best interests in mind you will rarely be wrong.

 

[Michelle68]

I don't think you are being difficult. It is the very least he can do if he wants to talk to his kids.

He is a deadbeat, and deadbeats always try to make others feel like they are responsible for the deadbeat's behavior. Make your decisions with the children's best interests in mind you will rarely be wrong.

:yeah:


--Michelle

 

[Kitten20]

I don't think you are being difficult. It is the very least he can do if he wants to talk to his kids.

He is a deadbeat, and deadbeats always try to make others feel like they are responsible for the deadbeat's behavior. Make your decisions with the children's best interests in mind you will rarely be wrong.

I also agree w/ Karen! Try not to let him get to you.

 

[kmjincs]

I agree with the others.

 

[Luv2BeFrugal]

I don't think you are being difficult. It is the very least he can do if he wants to talk to his kids.

He is a deadbeat, and deadbeats always try to make others feel like they are responsible for the deadbeat's behavior. Make your decisions with the children's best interests in mind you will rarely be wrong.

Well said! Don't let him push you into paying for his calls...that's his responsibility...amongst others.

 

[Jessesbride]

:yeah: agree w/all! DON'T let him make you feel guilty for his lack of taking care of HIS responsibilities!

Kim

 

[kaykwilts]

Your ex is being a jerk. YOu should not have to shell out any money for him to call his kids. It's his fault that you are left without a cell phone. Let the jerk figure out a way if he wants to talk to his kids.

 

[wulong32]

I don't think you are being difficult. It is the very least he can do if he wants to talk to his kids.

He is a deadbeat, and deadbeats always try to make others feel like they are responsible for the deadbeat's behavior. Make your decisions with the children's best interests in mind you will rarely be wrong.

Yep, she said it.

 

[Frugal Nurse]

I just read this now (having been a single mom before).

I don't think you're being difficult at all!
Good lord no!

If your children said the wanted to talk with their dad- and you refused to get them a way to talk, I'd be concerned.

However, the ex left you in a lurch. Don't feel bad at all.

My daughter had a pre-paid phone. She like it. Worked great, just like any other cell phone. Except she didn't go over her budget and shut her phone off so she wouldn't get calls from everyone (using up her minutes!)

They's leave a message and she'd use someone else's phone during free calling time (after 7p)

Works for everyone.