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My three children were all born six years apart. They are now 12y, 6y, and the youngest will be 6 months next week. I took a test two nights ago and by my caluclations I am 4-5weeks pregnant! :yikes: I have never carried a baby to full term, so this mean the two youngest are going to be 12-13 months apart! OMG-I am so shocked and stressed and just don't know what to think or feel right now.

To add a little comedy to the story: hubby's appointment to 'get fixed' is next week-I seriously want to wring his neck for procrastinating!

Anyhow, my question is what is in store for me financially (besides having to buy a larger vehicle), and what's in store for me emotionallly? Are you still able to bond as tightly when they're so young and both need so much attention?
 

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My boys are 16 months apart, but they kinda "grew" together, I mean they still do. When they were young the oldest was 2 and the youngest was 1 it was a handful, lol
 

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I know a girl at my church whose kids are 13 months apart. They are girls and she dresses them like twins. Maybe you can get the older kids to help.
 

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my older 2 are 14 months apart & #'s 3 & #4 are 16 1/2 months apart. i had no problem bonding with any of my kiddos...after the shock wears off, you'll be okay:)Its not as scary as you anticipate. My youngest is 6 1/2 months & I would be absolutely thrilled if I were to become pregnant right now.
 

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First of all: :congrats:

Second of all, mine are (or will be) between 2-3 years apart but I have a friend who has three, all one year apart. She bonded just fine with all of them. Whether she got any sleep at all for around 4 years is another question. :)

Financially the worst thing is the diapers, I think, depending on whether you breast feed or not. Two in diapers full-time gets pricey fast! I'm actually facing this myself because Ingrid is not cooperating on the potty-training agenda. ;) I keep hoping that any day now it will "click" with her and then we'll only need diapers for nighttime. That would be so nice for my budget... Also tough are the doctor's bills. Seems like even healthy babies go to the doctor a lot their first two years of life.
 

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Hello jenray,I have 4 children oldest is 22,next one and her sister are 19,18 they are born 1year and 3 days apart.And the my son born 3 years later.When thay were little it was to me having twins.What is nice is they look out for each other and they teach each other like when i was potty training Heather the 19 year old Jennifer learned also she could not wait and do what her big sis did.But on the other hand the hard side is both get sick same time both get cranky same time.You do save on clothes if you like passing down by the time one grew out of something the next one was ready saved some money.Now that my kids are older I will say to you what my Mom said to me this is the best time of your life good or bad enjoy.I wish you all the best.
 

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Thank you so much for the insight on this! I am beginning to feel a little better. I was starting to feel guilty that maybe the 6mo old was going to have to 'grow up too fast' because new baby will get attention, etc. but I see your point about being able to share and grow up together and it sounds almost exciting considering everyone else is so far apart.

I'm sure I'll have more questions later, but thank you all for easing my mind a little bit tonight- I greatly appreciate it!
 

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My DDs are 16 months apart. It was hard on me when they were very small. It was almost, as someone else said, like having a set of twins. My DDs are as different as night and day, but they are VERY VERY close to one another. If I could go back and do it over, I wouldn't change it. They have just grown up together. I always had time with each one. I breast fed, so didn't have the expense of formula. And, they wore cloth diapers during the day, unless we went somewhere. Lots of washing, but didn't buy many Pampers and such. I dressed them alike a lot, sometimes exactly and sometimes the same outfits just in different colors. I did this until the oldest told me she didn't want to dress like her sister anymore. LOL! It's tough, but it's wonderful all at the same time. I had my hands full. Especially when their biological father walked out when they were 2 and 3. Just relax and enjoy, it goes by WAY TOO FAST. My oldest DD is graduating from high school this year and seems like only yesterday I watched her walking by herself into her Pre-K.
 

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My girls are 14 months apart. They are inseparable. It was tough on me emotionally, but now it's great. With this one DD#2 will be 3 years old when the baby is born so to me that will be a whole other challenge!
 

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My sister and I are exactly a year and two weeks apart. Mom went in to labor on my birthday and was in slow labor till my sister was born. Having the two of us plus a special needs child was definitely a challenge for my parents... three in diapers at the same time. She became a master at washing cloth diapers because disposable diapers just weren't an option in the '60s.
Luckily for her I grew up fast and wanted to be big sister so I potty trained easily and quickly transitioned to a full sized bed.
As for my sister and I, we do not get along and are as different as night and day!!
 

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I have three children who are 21 months apart. I was so scared when I found out that I was pregnant for my last child. I had a friend that told me "IF you can afford to have one child then you can find away to afford as many as you would like to have". This was a lady who had five children who ages were also close together then her husband passed on. The kids were just babies when this happed. I found ways to spend time with each child and bond with them. There was not much time for mommy but I got through it. I did not work out of the home either until my daughter was two. Good luck to you and your family.
 

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I have a client with two little boys 10 months apart, and nobody was early or late. Her life appears to be COMPLETE pandemonium.

If her husband ever shows his face around here I'd sorely tempted to give him a dressing down!! Couldn't WAIT to get frolicking with the wifey again! Grrrr
 

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Wow! Congratulations! My two kiddos are four and a half years apart and this next one will be a three and a half year gap so mine aren't close together by any means. That being said...my stepmother had four kids in five years and somehow they managed. The house was chaotic at times. There was lots of illness all at once. There was lots of helping with homework. There were also lots of people to help with the chores and play games and have big family dinners. I know lots of people with kiddos really close in age and those siblings all seem really close. I think "mom's" time is limited, but it's only for a little while. They all grow so fast. Are you going to be due in October too?
 

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OMG- 10 months apart almost seems unreal!

Yes, I'm predicting a due date in October and will have a serious talk with dr about how to cook this baby longer than 34 weeks. I definately won't be doing as much this summer as I did last summer while pregnant. UGH! Another summer in Texas pregnant.

I've really been pondering this a lot the last few days and have come to the conclusion that God wouldn't give me anything I can't handle. Dh made a good point about not having to buy another bassinet, swing, etc and baby should be off formula and close to walking when this one arrives.

This is child #2 for Dh (oldest two were from previous), so I guess it's meant to be. I'm going to keep my head up and will keep everyone posted on our progress.

Thanks again for everyone's encouraging words!
 

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Congrats... I swear they need to bottle this water you all been drinking. You would make a fortune! LoL
I can't imagine my kids being that close. I have trouble with a 4 year old and a almost 2 year old. So since I can't offer advice I can say good luck!:tay:
 

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Mine are 18 months apart, still are very close. It's a wonderful thing.
You can never "get ready" but they will both be at different stages and find the joy in those. The rough diaper /feeding/ needing-you-so times don't last forever, just smile at the wonder of it all.:)
 

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My 1st & 2nd were 12 years apart, the 2nd & 3rd were 15 months apart. In a lot of ways, two has been easier than one because they entertain each other most of the time. The youngest is one size smaller than her brother, so grows right into his clothes as he's growing out of them (everyone thinks they're brothers, but oh well). They share all the same toys, they go to bed at the same time, they take a bath at the same time, they get their diapers changed at the same time, they take one long simultaneous nap in the afternoon. I seem to have plenty of 'me' time. We did have a tough bit when neither of them was sleeping through the night, but they actually sleep better now that they are together. Plus, they entertain each other for a fairly long time after they wake up in the morning, so I don't have to get up too early. I don't think my son even remembers not having a baby sister, because he doesn't seem jealous or resentful. Really, watching the way the two of them interact is just so sweet.

I don't know, maybe it gets harder when they are older, but so far two at a time has been awesome for me.
 

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Mine are 13 months apart. And birth control failure stories. Depo-provera (!!!) and Ortho Tri-Cyclen. And yes I took the pill every single day - on a timer! So anyhow, I figure God meant for me to have the boys when I did. They are best friends and worst enemies. There was a point when it was tough - when big J was barely walking and little J was in a pumpkin seat - ooh getting them back and forth to the car was nightmare. But its all worth it. Children always are.
 

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My first was from my first marriage, ds born 1984 then so on with life to marriage # 2 brought dd #1 Aug. 7 1994, ds #2 Aug. 2 1995 and ds #3 June 26 1997

So at one time of the year for a month and 1/2 they go in age order, so this June it will be 10-11-12 and in August for a few days 10-12-12 I was getting older 30 at the time and we wanted a few kids, so we had them fast. Don't regret it one bit, they are alot of fun!! :yippee: most of the time any ways.
 

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Well, my children aren't born to me biologically, so I cannot speak to the physical demand on your body with them so close, but my two boys are exactly 33 DAYS apart! Yup, you read right!!! They were adopted from Russia at 9 and 10 mos (my "younger one" has special needs...so that just made it even more fun!) You really do raise them as twins. Same schedule, same bath time, you plan your drs visits together. You even get two highchairs and spoon food into each of their mouths alternatingly.
You can do this, no problem. My younger one was and still is delayed, so I am sure that I looked just like you will look in a few years. I had one walking that I would hold his hand, and one on my hip.........I even flew by myself cross country with them - changing planes was sure fun! - that's another story. Well, I am sure that I have gotten off track - ubt you get the gist - you can do this!
 
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