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Believe it or not, it is possible to create an incredible, fulfilling and peaceful life no matter what your circumstances. The more you learn to look at and identify how things affect you, the faster you will progress on your own personal journey toward total fulfillment and joy. The most significant changes occur as you begin to "honor" yourself and start making decisions and choices based upon what is best for you. The surprising thing is that as you begin to think of yourself first, your life will be richer in all areas, including your relationships. What I'm talking about doesn't look anything like "selfishness" in traditional terms, and the results are quite different. As you begin to think about yourself first, you become a freer, more loving and giving person. Somehow it works that way. You have to trust the process. This is the beginning of a journey that will last the rest of your life.

One of the best places to start is to decide what you would like your ideal life to look like if you could create it any way you want. In other words, if you sat in front of a blank canvas and were able to "paint" a picture of your ideal life, what would it look like? Where would you live? What kind of car would you drive? How would you look? How would you spend your mornings, afternoons and evenings? What would you do for a living?

If you don’t make some choices now about what you want your future to look like, you’ll miss out on so much that life has to offer. It would be like deciding to go on a trip, packing up the family, but never choosing where to go! Pretty silly, right?

Here's a fun project. In a full page or two, write out what your ideal day would look like. Make sure it’s written in first person, present tense.

Begin when you wake up in the morning. Where do you live? What’s in the bedroom? Is it different from where you are now? What does it look like out the window? What are the sounds, smells and/or people that surround you as you awaken?

Who’s home with you, and what do you have for breakfast? Did you wake up to an alarm clock, or when you were done sleeping?

What do you look like: weight, clothing, etc.?

How do you spend your morning? What about lunch time? Maybe you’ll have a wonderful lunch with someone you deeply love or admire. Who is it, where will you be dining, and what is the conversation? Or maybe you’ll choose a quiet lunch by yourself on the beach…

What will you do in the afternoon? Some of your favorite things with people you love? What kind of vehicle are you driving and what’s the weather like?

Make sure your picture includes the special assistants who make your life run smoothly. Someone to clean your home, someone else to help in the office and run errands, someone to prepare gourmet meals, a gardener, etc. (these are just suggestions)

What’s your afternoon like? Perhaps the travel agent makes a special trip to your home to deliver your tickets and itinerary to the place you’ve been dreaming of going for years…

What will the evening be like? You get the idea!

Remember, this is YOUR story. Have fun with it. Go overboard – there are no boundaries. The only limitations are those you set yourself.
Don't worry how far-fetched it may seem.

Once you’ve finished writing out your story, read it every morning and evening. Picturing yourself in your perfect world over and over again is one of the most powerful tools you can use to begin changing your life in that direction.

With a clear picture in mind, what small changes can you make right now to begin making your life now look like your vision? Making these little changes sends a powerful message to the universe that you're serious, strengthens the power of your vision and the potential for its fulfillment. For example, if you see yourself exercising on a daily basis, looking fit and trim, make sure you're doing some type of exercise now - even if it's only walking around the block once a day. If you see yourself waking up peacefully to a quiet breakfast of croissants and fresh fruit with time to read or meditate, at least start eating the croissants and fruit now! If you see yourself with lots of free time for fun with your children, start taking the time right now! Play games with them, take them to the movies, shopping, whatever, but start NOW! The more you take the actions that are within your power, the quicker you'll get the results you desire.

One of the biggest lies any of us could ever buy is “someday I will…”. As if when you earn more money, change jobs, lose weight, etc., everything else will be different. It doesn’t happen like that! You need to do whatever is within your power to do right now. If you don’t, you are not being congruent with your vision, and you’re sending mixed messages to the world and to your subconscious. You need to do whatever is within your power to begin “being” the person you want to be, RIGHT NOW!

Anyone who has reached high levels of success and created a wonderful life did so in their imagination first, even if they weren't aware of it. Then all the pieces started falling into place. You can too!

Believing with you for YOUR wonderful vision,
and the incredible person you’re becoming … even TODAY!

All the best,

Mary Jo Wehniainen
Your Virtual Success Coach “Helping Ordinary People Create Extraordinary Lives”
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Mary Jo Wehniainen is an internationally recognized professional business coach, sales trainer, motivational speaker, and mother of five young children. She works with business owners, executives and entrepreneurs to reach and surpass their goals while maintaining a balanced, full and rewarding life. Visit and be sure to sign up for her free weekly newsletter
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