It seems that everyone in the forum is pregnant, or has had a baby. I've been married for about a year now and I'm undecided about having children. Part of me thinks that I don't want them, I don't want to have to wake up all night long, or put vacations on the back burner and so on.. Then part of me really wants to have a baby with my husband. I wish there was a way you could have a baby and it could instantly turn into a grown child... I of course know that’s not how it works. Was anyone else unsure? Is that something all parents dread about getting pregnant ( the sacrafices ) Any advice?