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Well, I come from a long line of independent women. My mom used to wait until dad went to work to start any of her projects because he just got in the way!! Not to say he wasn't handy, he just wanted to control things & then her project became his.
I would do OK without my husband. I make enough to cover the monthly expenses. I could cut back on a few things to save money.Food wise, I could raise about everything I need & preserve it myself. I would like to add chickens for the eggs. Maybe I would become a vegetarian.I am not afraid to try to fix things myself.

I have thought a lot about this since July 8th of this year. My sister's husband who seemed in perfect health at the age of 70, spent the day with my family at my mother in law's funeral & then went home & dropped dead. Just like that. No warning. So, my sister is going through this transition right now. She got the apples picked & cider made, and sold corn and delivered it. She tries to do all the things her husband did. I have gone over several times & helped with the apples.We are a pair. We are not quite as bad as Lucy & Ethel. She also is getting a lot of help from neighbors & friends. The neighbor man cut wood for her. Her church group is painting her house. It is a big change.
 

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I work as does my husband. Could I do it on my own if I had to? Yes. I would be better off in some areas and struggle in others. If it was him the answer would be the same. There are things he fixes that I wouldn't touch. There are other things he does that I could figure out pretty easily. As for the money situation, that's my realm. Even though he makes slightly more than me he woud have to hustle lots of extra work to run things than I would as he is simply a more expensive personality. I actually worry about that some. On my own with the boys I'd immediately cut cable and change the meat and soda grocery shopping. I'd know how to find a deal or repair clothing and cook from scratch. He would struggle in these areas. I would struggle when it cam to electrical, plumbing, and car repair issues. I can only manage basic change-outs on the car like the alternator or such and I'm way out of practice. Things like running a new gas line would make me call in someone else as well. Structural isn't a problem. Gardening is more of an issue but we do a family garden with my sister as the green thumb anyway. All in all things would be very different, however, we'd be ok.
 

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Funny madhen. I have all the skills you do and my weakness is my upper body strength as well. I lived for 7 years with just my DS and I before I married my DH and I took care of everything! Tiling, drywall, painting, building, roofing, you name I did it.

This winter I plan on learning to care for and raise chickens and pigs. Thanks to madhen for the great book ideas, I feel I will have no problem accomplishing that as well.

I am not worried or concerned if I was left on my own. But I would miss my hubby...as he is my soulmate and best friend.
 

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Well, it was set up as a "end of society as we know it" scenario, money means nothing and everything is basically barter or make/grow it yourself, but most have posted what they would do in less than apocalyptic situations, but ones that would still require that they learn how to survive without being dependent on any one particular person. So wherever you are brave enough to imagine yourself on that scale.... :)
 

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end of the world as we know it?

alone? yes I could unless there were warlords or gangs.. then no, I would need help. I alone couldn't fend off others.

though I am prepared to head for the hills, regroup and take them out one at a time!

I wouldn't want to live alone, just doing laundry would take an entire day! chopping wood for cooking and warmth would take a week!

could I, yes, do I want to? no.
 

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I know how to do canning, and grow a garden. I can sew if I had to and I could make crafts for money if I needed it. We have a gun and I've use it, but need to practice more. I can crochet a chainstitch but that's about it. I'm lefthanded LOL. I Can take care of the car if I had to. I work out of the home so don't have to worry about that. I need to get a hand pump for our well if we lost power. Don't know anything about electricity or plumbing neither does dh.
 

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I would fail miserably at the "whole world as we know it stop existing" and the sad part is DBF and I have talked about this before. I can't sew (though I'm hoping to learn very soon), I have never tried gardening or canning, I wouldn't know an axel from a time belt in a car, the only plumbing I know is how to use a plunger, i'm scared of being electrocuted if I tried messing with the electricity, we get city water and I wouldn't want to drink water from the river, and I could defintely get a job with more house/pay than the one I have now but right now I choose not to try. (Work is within a bus distance and it's cheaper to take the bus anyways!!) DBF knows how to work on cars and computers so I think we could probably barter those talents for things we could not do. ... Man I need to get cracking at stuff!!
 

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I'm pretty sure I could. Would I want to still be here without him, no.

The only thing I would do is gut and skin a deer or any other animal for that matter. I'd starve before that happened.
 

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Hmm... let's see. I was raised to do for myself.

While I'm a SAHM I earn money, i'm almost 50% of our income. Not bad for being home.

I know how to start a fire, chop would, bring down trees, I stay away from huge ones. I can operate a wide variety of power tools although dh is scared of that thought. I can do basic plumbing but stay away from electrical.

I grow a garden, have an apple tree, know how to preserve food. I can sew and knit and enough crochet to mend sweaters. I can't have certain animals but know how to raise chickens and rabbits. Even know how to skin one, we had a trapline growing up.

I can fish, but don't hunt, and I can clean a fish well enough.

I'd be far from crippled if something were to happen to dh.

I also have an RV that my kids and I could live in comfortably if the city were to go do carp. It's store in the country, I'd load up the blankets and stockpile and off we go. I even have a garden plot out there, heat, campstove. And other tools required.

I also have a bsic knowledge of foraging, wild potatoes onions, berries and mushrooms as well as various nuts and other edibles.
 

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Ceashels is extremely independent. I have no doubt she could and would thrive on her own - she was doing it before we met.

But - I consider it part of my responsibility as her partner to ensure that my end is held up, even if something should happen to me.

So I carry a *substantial* life insurance policy, so that if the worst should happen, she will be free to choose what she wants to do with herself. She will never *have* to work again a day in her life, if she doesn't want to, whether I'm around or not.

Of course, she's so independent, she has a thriving house cleaning business anyway... ;)
 
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Right now, I do not have many skills that I have actively tried. I am convinced that I have many skills hidden. My 2 major survivor skills: I have good friends who can do lots of different things and I can read a manual. I have several books at home concerning home repairs, etc and a basic toolkit, so I'll manage.
 

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Wow Moor, that is an impressive list of skills!
I can do basic plumbing and electric work. I helped roof a house for HFH several years ago, so I suppose I could do so again if I had too. I do yard work. I have too much shade for much of a garden, but that is something I would like to learn. If I had a garden, I would also learn to can and preserve food. I can sew. I don't have a gun and have only shot a gun as a teenager when my older brother was trying to teach me to shoot. I hate the idea of needing a gun to survive...
 

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Hi everyone. This is my first post so please bear with me.
I found this thread fascinating and each and everyone's take on how they could handle life without DH in an apocolyptic situation.

I lost my DH only 2 1/2 years ago and I have had to make it on my own since then. I have chickens and a large garden. I have fruit trees and berries. I freeze and dry most of my harvest. I don't can. I have had to handle each and every emergency as it has come up. Two years ago I was without electricity for almost 2 weeks in subfreezing temperatures. I did what I needed to do to make it through and I learned from the experience.

I have several guns, a supply of ammo and a large dog for protection.
I have plenty of food stockpiled.
I have a generator and a supply of gasoline. (wouldn't last long but it would help until I figured out what to do next)

I have property with lots of wood available.
My DH and DS built the house that I live in. I have all the tools necessary to build a house (not necessarily all the skills) and I have no mortgage.

It is interesting but I have been pretty much snowbound since before Christmas and I have gotten along just fine.

I am continually trying to increase my self-reliance and have pretty much made that my therapy after my husband's death.

I CAN make it alone. I don't think that I could survive long-term without help from my sons and my wonderful neighbors. I am lucky to live where people help each other out and check on each other in emergencies. We can be independent and self-reliant but I think we would all have to be interdependent to survive long-term in a major catastrophe.
 

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Ceashels is extremely independent. I have no doubt she could and would thrive on her own - she was doing it before we met.

But - I consider it part of my responsibility as her partner to ensure that my end is held up, even if something should happen to me.

So I carry a *substantial* life insurance policy, so that if the worst should happen, she will be free to choose what she wants to do with herself. She will never *have* to work again a day in her life, if she doesn't want to, whether I'm around or not.

Of course, she's so independent, she has a thriving house cleaning business anyway... ;)

excellent point Greebo!
 

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My DH and I just sat down and went over a comprehensive "Survival Plan" of what to do next should, Heaven forbid, I be left alone. He handles the finances and is the breadwinner, and even though I have a business degree I haven't paid as much attention as I should. I also don't work outside the home right now, outside of occasional substitute teaching. It was a very important, very enlightening discussion. Quite a relief to us both. (I had no idea he worried so about me... that was enlightening, too...)

~Mary
 

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My DH and I just sat down and went over a comprehensive "Survival Plan" of what to do next should, Heaven forbid, I be left alone. He handles the finances and is the breadwinner, and even though I have a business degree I haven't paid as much attention as I should. I also don't work outside the home right now, outside of occasional substitute teaching. It was a very important, very enlightening discussion. Quite a relief to us both. (I had no idea he worried so about me... that was enlightening, too...)

~Mary
It's nice to know "the plan". When dh and I discuss "the plan" we call it PLAN B. lol. It's also good to know that BOTH of you were enlightened.
 

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I think I would be good. I do depend on my husband alot because he's just so darn helpful but I know that I could do it on my own. He is in the military so he's been gone for half our marriage overall anyway. It just becomes second nature and you really see what your capable of when you don't have a choice and no one else to rely on.
 

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I could physically survive, and I suppose I'd have to, you can't just give up and die when you have a kid. But I'd be soooo sad.:weeping:

I can garden, hunt a little, trap, weave fishing nets, build fires, build shelters, purify water, make things out of stuff.

(it's actually a really fun game..pickup a random assortment of stuff and then try to figure out what useful thing you can make out of them.)

I also have a route planned out from my house in the city to my friends farm (following power lines after leaving the road so I wouldn't get lost). My friends and I have "stops" planned along the route so we'd know where to look for each other in case their places were also compromised.

I have excellent camping gear. i'll look for a sale on that stuff..but WILL NOT compromise on the weight or quality. I figure if I'm ever going to NEED it it had better be exactly what I need.

I have a "garden in a container" of heirloom seeds that weighs only one pound 2 oz. so I could take it with me.

Yikes this makes me so sad to think about...
 
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