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We are facing a hard situation. My pregnancy has hit a bump in the road that cannot be overcome. We went in for our 20 week ultrasound to find out how baby was doing and what the gender was. Unfortunately, the answers were "Not good" and "couldn't tell." The kidneys were what they called multi-cystic and are entirely non-functioning. Without functioning kidneys, the lungs don't develop properly. Without lungs to function, survival outside the womb is minutes to hours. A day if you are lucky. That's with a ventilator.
We have the choice of delivering early or waiting to go as close to full term as the body lets us. The end results will be the same no matter what.
Baby is still alive. Has a fully functioning heart. Head and other things that were visible were developing normally. Couldn't see a lot without amniotic fluid.
We both have family close to us. The cemetery in my home town is actually free. I have an uncle who can make us a custom-sized box and relatives in the mortuary business who would be able to help with prepping and storing the baby until I would be up and around to go to a service.
I would be required to have a c-section because of a history of c-sections due to health reasons. Hence the possible delay in burial.
It is hard to face the fact that this baby who kicks and turns and has a good heart rate has a 0 chance of survival.
I have 3 other kids who are helping remind me that life is going to go on. I have good support in my faith and my church congregation as well as family and friends.
Right now, I'm a little numb and detached. I go back and forth and probably will for a while.
We have the choice of delivering early or waiting to go as close to full term as the body lets us. The end results will be the same no matter what.
Baby is still alive. Has a fully functioning heart. Head and other things that were visible were developing normally. Couldn't see a lot without amniotic fluid.
We both have family close to us. The cemetery in my home town is actually free. I have an uncle who can make us a custom-sized box and relatives in the mortuary business who would be able to help with prepping and storing the baby until I would be up and around to go to a service.
I would be required to have a c-section because of a history of c-sections due to health reasons. Hence the possible delay in burial.
It is hard to face the fact that this baby who kicks and turns and has a good heart rate has a 0 chance of survival.
I have 3 other kids who are helping remind me that life is going to go on. I have good support in my faith and my church congregation as well as family and friends.
Right now, I'm a little numb and detached. I go back and forth and probably will for a while.
I'll be praying for your family.~
