For those who don't know, I've been in a long-distance relationship (Colorado for me, Delaware for him) for 3 years and he surprise proposed to me on December 9th. Literally showed up on my doorstep from 1,495 miles away with ring in hand!! It was so awesome! He stayed the weekend.
Our plan is for him to come out in June, we would marry privately, then go to my parent's house for dinner. (same town) Total people attending the dinner would be 10 and my first grandbaby. They are all in the same town.
Then, he will help me load up my stuff to move to Delaware. When we get there for our new life together, settled into our new house, we would then have a family dinner with his side of the family. I'm pretty much leaving that dinner alone, they can figure it out, ha!
Here's where I need help:
For my family's Wedding Dinner I am trying to be super frugal but at the same time I do want the dinner to be nice.
What items would you splurge on and what would you skip or be super frugal on?
My thoughts:
1) skip flowers, they die. Maybe find silk flowers at Goodwill?
2) Do get a NICE cake. Would it be rude for me to ask my SIL to bake and decorate a cake for me? She has done all our birthday cakes in the past but I don't know if its rude to ask her for a bigger occasion like this. She doesn't do it professionally, is just really good at it. Should I offer to pay her for the cake? Could I ask her for that in lieu of a gift or is that insinuating she would give a gift?
3) Table decorations. No clue. Only 10 people, don't really need place cards or should I to make it look formal and nice?
Wedding will take place in June, already made sure my parents would host it, already requested a dish that I love. Should I be offering to buy the ingredients for that dish? This is my second marriage.
Thanks for any input and I'll also peruse the wedding threads for ideas.
Our plan is for him to come out in June, we would marry privately, then go to my parent's house for dinner. (same town) Total people attending the dinner would be 10 and my first grandbaby. They are all in the same town.
Then, he will help me load up my stuff to move to Delaware. When we get there for our new life together, settled into our new house, we would then have a family dinner with his side of the family. I'm pretty much leaving that dinner alone, they can figure it out, ha!
Here's where I need help:
For my family's Wedding Dinner I am trying to be super frugal but at the same time I do want the dinner to be nice.
What items would you splurge on and what would you skip or be super frugal on?
My thoughts:
1) skip flowers, they die. Maybe find silk flowers at Goodwill?
2) Do get a NICE cake. Would it be rude for me to ask my SIL to bake and decorate a cake for me? She has done all our birthday cakes in the past but I don't know if its rude to ask her for a bigger occasion like this. She doesn't do it professionally, is just really good at it. Should I offer to pay her for the cake? Could I ask her for that in lieu of a gift or is that insinuating she would give a gift?
3) Table decorations. No clue. Only 10 people, don't really need place cards or should I to make it look formal and nice?
Wedding will take place in June, already made sure my parents would host it, already requested a dish that I love. Should I be offering to buy the ingredients for that dish? This is my second marriage.
Thanks for any input and I'll also peruse the wedding threads for ideas.