I gave this too aimee to read because two of her friends have told me they have already engaged in this "non-sex" activity (oral sex - the new kissing) I don't know if this article ison the family Circle website - it is very interesting (by Deborah A. Wilburn) - any way we live in a very tiny town (last graduating class was 16) and suddenly sex is all these kids talk about in Middle School - no bodies mom is home by day. I am so scared that the girls will be pressured into this stuff cuz their is no one home with thenm . The two girls who "did it" said they wanted to cuz they were good at it and it made them feel loved. I know from all my years in counseling that daddy makes up for 80% of a girls self esteem, I know that these two girls come from broken homes as does Aimee. I try to talk on the level with her so she doesn't replace missing feelings with "conjured up or imagined" feelings and subsequently "entertains" to keep these feelings. But she just throws this stuff back in my face and says why would you give this to me to read (after just telling me that some boy said he wanted to put his hand up her shirt) I don't know what I am doing wrong in my attempts to talk to her - I know that if my mom had ever talked to me about anything I would have died but I was different - I raised myself basically and I moved out at almost 14. I am unsure how to connect - some "thing" protected me when I was young - I don't know what it was but I didn't get into trouble. I don't think I see Aimee making the same sort of analysis that I did. How would you approach this??