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Ok Ladies,
Here is the condensed version of what is going on. My MIL (whom I am very close to) is not getting along with her daughter's MIL. Both of these ladies love their children and grandchildren and want the best for them. They also are both the matriarchs of the family and tend to run the show. Now, I happen to know and love both of these strong and wonderful women (I consider the other MIL family also and she does the same with me). The problem is that these ladies are disagreeing on the living arrangements of my SIL and BIL and neice. They live with my MIL and the other MIL is not happy about it at all. The reason, the other MIL can see how this is hurting her son's sense of being a man and taking care of his family. My SIL does not want to move out of Mommy's house because that would mean that she would grow up and become responsible. She even admits that living with her parents is hurting her marriage, but having to live on a budget would "hurt" more. UGHHH!!!
My MIL cannot cut the apron strings and lets them continue to live there rent and expense free, even though it is hurting her financially and health wise. The other MIL can see this and is concerned about my MIL, her own son, my SIL and her granddaughter.
I get so upset when my MIL says something negative about the other MIL because I can honestly see why the other MIL feels like she does. Birthdays and holidays are becoming a real hassle with feelings hurt on both sides and it doesn't have to be this way!
It has gotten to the point where my MIL does not want any of us (extended family) to have anything to do with the other MIL. But you know something, I think that is childish and I will continue to maintain a loving friendship with them. MIL has seemed to forgetton that DH and I are the guardians of our niece if something ever happened to her parents and that we believe that our neice should know and spend time with both sides of the family (that is why we were chosen as her guardians, that and we love her to pieces).
This whole issue could be resolved if my SIL and BIL would just grow up and move out on their own. My SIL is 41 for goodness sakes! UGHHHHH!!! The whole situation just makes me ill and I'm tired of the complaining about SIL, BIL and the other inlaws from my own MIL. I don't even want to go and visit anymore because I am uncomfortable in their home now. SAD!
Here is the condensed version of what is going on. My MIL (whom I am very close to) is not getting along with her daughter's MIL. Both of these ladies love their children and grandchildren and want the best for them. They also are both the matriarchs of the family and tend to run the show. Now, I happen to know and love both of these strong and wonderful women (I consider the other MIL family also and she does the same with me). The problem is that these ladies are disagreeing on the living arrangements of my SIL and BIL and neice. They live with my MIL and the other MIL is not happy about it at all. The reason, the other MIL can see how this is hurting her son's sense of being a man and taking care of his family. My SIL does not want to move out of Mommy's house because that would mean that she would grow up and become responsible. She even admits that living with her parents is hurting her marriage, but having to live on a budget would "hurt" more. UGHHH!!!
My MIL cannot cut the apron strings and lets them continue to live there rent and expense free, even though it is hurting her financially and health wise. The other MIL can see this and is concerned about my MIL, her own son, my SIL and her granddaughter.
I get so upset when my MIL says something negative about the other MIL because I can honestly see why the other MIL feels like she does. Birthdays and holidays are becoming a real hassle with feelings hurt on both sides and it doesn't have to be this way!
This whole issue could be resolved if my SIL and BIL would just grow up and move out on their own. My SIL is 41 for goodness sakes! UGHHHHH!!! The whole situation just makes me ill and I'm tired of the complaining about SIL, BIL and the other inlaws from my own MIL. I don't even want to go and visit anymore because I am uncomfortable in their home now. SAD!