[MANDERS]

Lauren was 5(duh she still is)lol Let me tell you that the past couple of months that cannon has been in his terrible 2 stage its seems that Lauren think she can do it too.

***DISCLAIMER****Now remember I quit smoking this week so I might be blowing this out of proportion and auntflo decided to stop by.*******

Anyways here's the gist of what happens.If she gets introuble and gets a time out she'll act like its a joke and talk and play and get up.Then I'll tell her to get back in time out and she has another 5 minutes(we do 5 min at a time)We'll I put her into timeout for jumping off of cannons toy box and throwing his toys(dnephew was doing this too and got a time out too)I wouldn't mind the noise but cannon was asleep in my room(and if he doesn't get a nap oh lord I'm introuble)so they get a timeut for 5min.After 5 min they get up and go right back and do this again.So I go right back up there and they get right back in timeout,Lauren decideds to try to play with logan so seh gets 5 more minutes,she decided to talk to logan(telling jokes etc)and got another 5 min,thn decided to get up and go play(this was all within the first 2 minute of the first 5 min.Well this kept going on up until i told her a total of 7 times she was getting 5 more min,Making a total of 40min timeout.Well the 40 min never happened and so finally I said ya know what since you can't behave,go by the rules you are grounded for tonight and until sat morning,so that means no playing with friends(dnephew is an exception cause i babysit him)So her friend calls and wants her to come over.I answered the phone and before I gave it to her I told her no.She cried and told me she's sick of me(that hurt).So after she gets off the phone she goes outside without asking.I don't know what to do.I know a lot of it is cause cannon is acting out,but he doesn't get anywhere with it.i just wanted to know if you think she's too young for grounding cause let me tell ya timeouts aren't working.

 

[Darlene]

Nope, I don't think she's too young. You are taking away a privilage she likes and that makes her mad. All time outs and "grounding" are , are ways of teaching that bad behavior has consequences. Time outs work for little ones and other things like grounding work for others. Your job is to find out what works & stick to it without backing down.If she is looking for attention, she's found it. Good luck Amanda.
PS~ she loves you, she's just mad at you for finding a punishment that hits home.

 

[mustang80]

Yup, taking away priviliges works here too. We usually start with the tv-very effective on DD2-lol. DD1 gets the computer taken away-and at 14, it is the lifeline to her friends. She hates it that we regulate their time on the computer. They only get 15 minutes per day. Does anyone think that is wrong? I don't want them on the internet 24/7. BTW the computer is in the living room.

You're doing a good job, Amanda. Keep it up. Someday she'll appreciate your discipline.

 

[pita1213]

dd is 5 and she has been grounded a few times so no i don't think your dd is too young. i have taken priviledges away from both of my kids depending on what it is they did. sometimes it's tv, the ps2, or playing with friends.
mustang, no i don't think that is wrong. you are looking out for your kids. there are a few young people and one or two moms that i talk to online that think i'm mean because, when my kids are older and start using the internet, i am not going to let them have a computer in their room. it will be in the livingroom if they have their own to use, or in the office if we don't have one set up for them and they use mine. i too plan on limiting their time on it. as they get older and if they keep grades up, they can earn more time on it. but like everything else fun like that it is a priviledge not a right. gj for looking out for your kids.