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Mahalo for sharing LK - you are certainly a stronger person for all that you've gone through. Looking forward to hearing more of your happiness and blessings!!
 
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my posting name is anonymous. he is the one who put his icky stuff out there.

and anyway. this is about me. I am sooo glad i got a divorce...
That's right LK! And as a bisexual man he totally decieved you when taking on marriage vows. He knew it would never work. I'm sorry you went thru this but you know what? ....Good Riddance to him :sucker:, and I hope the back-door never got the chance to hit him in the butt either!

HUGS!!

Theresa
 
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That's right LK! And as a bisexual man he totally decieved you when taking on marriage vows. He knew it would never work. I'm sorry you went thru this but you know what? ....Good Riddance to him :sucker:, and I hope the back-door never got the chance to hit him in the butt either!

HUGS!!

Theresa
what bothers me is he is trying to get another wife.
 
And as a bisexual man he totally decieved you when taking on marriage vows. He knew it would never work.

Theresa
how so? pm me if you'd rather leave this off the page
 
LK sweetie I`m so sorry you had to go threw this. You sure didn`t need that crap in your life.
I`m so glad you are out of it. You are a very strong woman!
The things you have done are awesome.

I would make sure all the women you know would no about him. You didn`t deserve it and they don`t either.

I wish you a wonderful future. you deserve it .

(((hugs)))
 
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to clarify:
sex addiction is not the same as being gay or bisexual. my ex was a straight man, who did the bathroom/park thing as an easy way to "get high" and get a fix.

he used to say men are easier than women. cheaper too, don't have to pay for a date. sex addicts are opportunists. all you have to do is go to the "family rest room" at the local mall. and wait.

my ex used to have to "act out" 8-10 times a day. "he's in the bathroom AGAIN!"

sex addiction is not about gay or straight.

here is a good definition from the point of view of a male sex addict.

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"Sexual Addiction - What is it?
Sexual addiction is, in its simplest form, a normal sex drive that has become obsessive, to the point that behavior is out of control. Sexual addiction is referred to as a 'process' addiction, as opposed to a substance addiction like alcohol or drugs. In a process addiction, the euphoric feeling (or "high") comes from chemicals released into the brain, rather than from an external source. As the mind becomes accustomed to the release of these chemicals, it searches out for continued sources of that high. This could be from eating, the adrenaline rush of competition, putting yourself in dangerous situations, or from sexual stimuli. Sexual addiction can take on many forms, from the use of pornography and masturbation to repeated sexual affairs, patronizing prostitutes, and voyeurism. In extreme cases, sexual addiction can involve molestation, rape, and even murder. The many forms of sexual addiction have one thing in common, the behavior is done in secret, and the sex addict becomes skilled in hiding this secret life from those closest to him. "

my ex husband was clean and sober from his addiction and active in SAA from 1995 to 2005 which i why stayed and why we were so happy. then ironically it was an affair with a woman that lasted two years 2005-2007 that destroyed our marriage.
 
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By the sounds of it, you're doing much much better without him. People who act that way deserve to be castrated for it in the way that it makes the hurt party feels they should be.

I think it would be different if he'd been up front about it from the start. Hiding things like that can really affect other people and not just the person that's doing it.

I think ladykemma2 is handling this in a way that's healthy for her to move on and get closure.

Good for you, girl!
 
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I was married 2 years and 25 days the first time...he left me for one woman and was engaged to another...on our 1st wedding anniversary! :eek:

So, I divorced him, but went back and forth for about 4 years about whether or not I wanted the man. He did something really nasty and I met DH and about the same time. We'll (DH and I) have been married 30 years midmonth. The ex is on his 4th? 5th? wife....

I don't blame you a bit. Be well, be happy, and grow. You can find someone else who will love you the way you are without all the deception and games.

((many hugs))

Judi
 
Glad you are feeling better emotionally and physically. You did what was right for you.
 
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Yeah, how scary for the next person he hurts! Not only that, but this is the support thread and you should feel free to say how you are feeling. It is good you could heal and move on.
I couldn't have said it better...

It's so sad that you've had this experience, but there is a bright side...it's our past experiences-good and bad, that makes us the people that we are now...stronger...better...and so much smarter...:hugz::grouphug:

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