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My sibling, who is about a year and a half younger than me, has three kids with a fourth on the way. She has no job and has expressed explicitly that she never will get a job. She basically sponges off of everyone else, including "the system".

This is the same sibling that I basically disowned because every time I talked to her, she'd scream and yell at her kids and call them names.

So I call my mother this afternoon. I haven't talked to her in about 3 or 4 weeks. She proceeds to tell me that my sibling asked her to come pick up her *expletive* grandson. This particular grandson is my eldest nephew. When she does, he tells her that he doesn't want to go home. My sibling then calls the police because my mother won't turn her son over to her. The police come and ask my nephew who he wants to be with, and he tells the policeman that he'd rather stay with my mother. (In the process of all of this, my sibling calls my mother and reams her one, saying that she was turned into CPS and she thought that my mother did it. It turns out that she didn't, but now that she's being accused of it, she will be doing it.)

My nephew then tells the policeman that my sibling punches him like a punching bag. He has the marks to prove it. My mother thinks that my second-youngest nephew was the one that got her turned in because he told his teacher that my sister refuses to let him do his homework. This is the same set of boys that said sibling has beaten with a bicycle lock chain (with the marks to prove it).

CPS has been called on this family quite a few times and there's been a lot of issues in the past with this particular part of my family. Both the father of the three boys (who is not the father of the fourth boy currently in-utero) and the mother have been found to be abusive (and my sibling even had the kids removed from the home). After hearing about what's happened, it's apparent to not only myself and my mother, but my mother's boyfriend, that the kids need to be removed from the home. It's emotionally, physically and socioeconomically abusive with the current home setting that they are all in. The same sibling has told not only myself but everyone else that she wishes they would die, that all of her problems are caused by someone else and that she wishes her kids were dead.

Yet CPS hasn't removed these kids from the home permanently?

What is the purpose of said organization if they can't do their job?!

I then told my mother that the kids need to be put into another home permanently and that the fourth child needs to be removed as soon as he's born. Then, they need to put said sibling into a psychiatric facility because a lot of us fear that one day, she will kill one of these kids. Why is it taking this long for them to place those kids with people who won't harm them or force them to live in conditions that aren't even fit for an adult human being to be in?

I fear for my nephews' lives and so does everyone else. So why doesn't CPS do their job and make sure that nothing worse can come to these kids?
 

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have you called? The more people raising dust about it....

perhaps calling the other authorities, dunno how it works in canada...but maybe the police could get involved too. at least your mom could call and have them see your nephew, take a statement. or maybe your mom could take him to a physician, get them to document the injuries.

i am sure there are lotsa phones that could be rining about this.
 
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I haven't called because I just got wind of what's been going on today. I've offered to write letters to the judge(s) before, but no one ever took me up on that. I might end up doing something like that and sending it to my mother with my signature on it.

I just didn't imagine they'd take my word for it since I'm not a physical witness.
 

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We have turned our child's perp into crimes against children several times and they can't keep our complaint in the computer for anything. We will call back to check on it and they have no record of ever talking to us. Yet, we have innocent families here getting harassed.
 

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I am sorry to hear about this. Now that a teacher is involved there may be more involvement with CPS. I would write the letter and send it to CPS. What you stated needing to be done is absolutely correct. Your sister needs help and the children need to be protected.

I hope peace comes to you and your family, especially the children.
 

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Call and keep calling. Get anyone with any first hand knowledge to call, have the kids call by gosh. By law a teacher has to call if a child tells them of abuse. Even if they suspect it I think.
 

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Yeah, I think the letter would be an excellent start too. I'm going to contact the CPS worker and let them know what I'm being told. I told my mom that someone needs to get a judge involved in this too. I believe my sister had to see the same family court judge that my dad dealt with and he wasn't very nice at all.
 

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I haven't called because I just got wind of what's been going on today. I've offered to write letters to the judge(s) before, but no one ever took me up on that. I might end up doing something like that and sending it to my mother with my signature on it.

I just didn't imagine they'd take my word for it since I'm not a physical witness.
true. but you are a witness to the encounters you have had with her, and overhearing her yelling at the kids.

I was just thinking of the phrase, "the squeeky wheel gets the grease". So i was thinking squeeking away might get the kids into better situation. I dunno how it works there though.
 

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You're going to have to stop waiting for CPS to take the initiative and instead become the bitch who drives them crazy so that they take action just to get rid of you.

Are you planning to take the kids yourself? If you tell CPS that you'll house the kids it may grease the wheels
 

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CPS does sometimes do it right. Those poor children. Thats how I ended up raising my nieces. I know they do my son was harassed by cps. They were told my son beat them and made the oldest join a gang. They showed up the day I was taking them swimming. No shirts. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do to protect the children. Report her. If it takes a hundred times to get results do it.
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You're going to have to stop waiting for CPS to take the initiative and instead become the bitch who drives them crazy so that they take action just to get rid of you.

Are you planning to take the kids yourself? If you tell CPS that you'll house the kids it may grease the wheels
I'm in another country. I can't take the kids myself. I don't have the space. My mother has told them that she'll take them, but nothing has been done.
 

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Sometimes you have to do what you have to do to protect the children. Report her. If it takes a hundred times to get results do it.
I so agree! Your nephews are at extreme risk. It sounds like their lives are on the line. Please step in and hound CPS and the authorities day and night if need be to protect them. I'm sorry you're going through this. :hugz:
 

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We do foster care. I agree call, call, call. Then call some more. Document everytime you have called; who you talk with. I agree become CPS' worst nightmare for the sake of the kids. If you don't who will. What then if something really bad happens to those kids. Teachers are to call, talk to all the teachers involved. We had a child that hit his head and had a bruise, it was an accident, but the teacher called and reported it and someone was at our house to investigate that day. We explained what happened and everything was o.k. Again get whoever you can involved for the sake of those kids. Good Luck!
 

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It seems to be a pattern with CPS. Harassing innocent families and then doing nothing to help children who are actually being neglected,beaten etc. It happened to my family last year one of my sisters called CPS on us and I had read enough to know not to let them in my home lady said that we were giving my daughter lithium which was a lie and that my son didn't see a doctor even though he was schedule for his regular check up the next week,they closed the case because I refused to cooperate and have cut off all contact with my ex sisters.
 
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