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So, Friday I found a Facebook friend request from my mother. This on top of a 4 hour sleep night led me to be a bit off yesterday.
It feels like an intrusion. The rational side of me says that it is not, but it feels like it is.
She has this delusion / denial thing going on where "family" should be some kind of happy word. Well, it is not. Right now I am just leaving the request in the bin ignoring it. I deleted the message from my email because it bothered me to look at it again earlier today. Actually found myself wondering where all the junk email went to keep it on the first page, lol.
My inner anger voice keeps saying that I go visit them now and then for holidays, why can't they just otherwise leave me alone? Well, with said internal voice not being fettered by the FV forum rules, that's not an exact quote, but you all get the idea.
No, I haven't talked to her about this stuff. On the other hand, when I was 12 I asked her that what I wanted as a Christmas gift was for her to get a divorce from my father (didn't happen, they're still together, one of the reasons I was really, really nervous about marrying my wife after we cohabited for awhile). So I can't imagine how she has a rational basis for thinking that I have any positive connotations to the word "family" especially in reference to them.
At any rate, I feel really stupid that a mere Facebook friend request is having such a profound effect on me, but there it is. Stupid probably isn't the word I'm looking for, but I can't think of a better word at the moment.
I'll appreciate any words of wisdom you all might have to offer.
Thanks.
It feels like an intrusion. The rational side of me says that it is not, but it feels like it is.
She has this delusion / denial thing going on where "family" should be some kind of happy word. Well, it is not. Right now I am just leaving the request in the bin ignoring it. I deleted the message from my email because it bothered me to look at it again earlier today. Actually found myself wondering where all the junk email went to keep it on the first page, lol.
My inner anger voice keeps saying that I go visit them now and then for holidays, why can't they just otherwise leave me alone? Well, with said internal voice not being fettered by the FV forum rules, that's not an exact quote, but you all get the idea.
No, I haven't talked to her about this stuff. On the other hand, when I was 12 I asked her that what I wanted as a Christmas gift was for her to get a divorce from my father (didn't happen, they're still together, one of the reasons I was really, really nervous about marrying my wife after we cohabited for awhile). So I can't imagine how she has a rational basis for thinking that I have any positive connotations to the word "family" especially in reference to them.
At any rate, I feel really stupid that a mere Facebook friend request is having such a profound effect on me, but there it is. Stupid probably isn't the word I'm looking for, but I can't think of a better word at the moment.
I'll appreciate any words of wisdom you all might have to offer.
Thanks.