My husband and me have always agreed on our finances. I have always done the budgeting and paying bills and then I give him $50 a week for his tool bill or however he wants to spend it. He has always been fine with this, but lately he has been acting like a child in a toy store that his mom is telling him no we can't afford this. My husband is not deprived by no means. Most of our bills other than the house and car are for stuff for him. Like one loan is for his tool box for work which costed us over $5000. It won't be paid off until May of 09. Then one of the credit cards are for buying him a tractor because that is his hobby. We bought it from my dad for 2500 like a month ago. I asked him if he wanted it and he said he would love to have it so I made it happen. Now he says that he likes it but the only reason that he said to get it was because he knew my parents needed the money. Now he wants a new bigger tool box. He wants to trade in the one we are still paying on to one that is $12000. He would be financing another $6000 because he is allowing him $6000 on his for trade in. He would be paying 50 a week. I said hell no. We are trying to get as debt free as can be and I am not going to add another $6000 to our debt. I told him he needs to make do with what he has and one day we would have cash to pay for stuff like that. He didn't like my answer. He has been in a bad mood since yesterday. I sat him down and showed him the budget and explained why it was a bad idea. He says that he will never have the money to pay cash for anything like that because even if we had the cash I would let him spend it. So I asked "wouldn't it make you feel good just know there is money in our savings just in case we need it as to have no money but lots of crap". He would rather have the crap. He also made a comment during this descussion that just plane peed me off. I asked him what I got for my self. All the money I spend is on grocerys or the kids. I shop at good will for our clothes. He told me that I got to stay at home. So when I ask him if he wants me to get a job he says no but his comments suggest otherwise. So I called a daycare today to see if they were hiring and they are. After childcare and taxes I will only bring home about $90 a week. Should I get the job just to shut him up and be able to save my paycheck, or should I tell him to quit being a baby and inore him? Has anyone else went through this or have any advice? I love my husband, I just think he is going through something right now, I just don't know what. I think he is starting to not like his job and maybe he feels a little jelous that I get to stay home. Sorry so long.