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I am SO mad right now.

DH and I just had a massive row over schooling of all things! I don't even remember how it started!

He believes greatly in the 'system' - ie going to state school, collage, university etc and then basically said you HAVE to 'go' to school to learn anything worthwhile.

So the argument began - I HATED school it ruined my life (to an extent) I have homeschooled one of my children for 2 years until I had to send him back to school.

3 out of my 4 children that have been to school also have/had massive problems with it. I said a child could be just as educated, if not MORE so at home with parents that could see how they are being treated, what they are learning etc. etc.

He says NO and I WON'T change his mind and everything I am saying is total rubbish and socialist thinking!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:

I think HE is being small minded! I KNOW I'm right (LOL - I have that gift LMAO!)

I'm so angry I want to home-school my youngest now just to prove my point!!!! And he says it's out of the question, I can't possibly educate her like a university 'teacher' could and I would make her 'different' to everybody else (home-schooling isn't big here at all) and she would feel left out AND I'd be 'playing' with her life - ME - her mother!!!!!

I'm MAD MAD MAD and REALLY MAD.

HELP!
 

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:hugz: Bev,
First of all, take some deep breaths and try to calm down. Going up against your husband and having a huge arguement with him is not going to convince him that homeschooling might be a good idea for your youngest. It will only make him dig in deeper.
If he is the "logical" type, get information on homeschooling successes in the UK and maybe even try to find a support group that can help you. Next, pray!!!! Sometimes, only God can change a husband's mind. Don't continue to fight with your husband over this, you will both end up loosing. :hugz:
 

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Bev, we know that his thinking is wrong because many of us homeschoolers are living proof that our kids can do well. Have you ever ready the story of the Colfaxes. He needs to read it if you can get your hands on the book. The title of the book is Homeschooling for Excellance by Micki and David Colfax.

All 4 of their boys went on to Harvard and became doctors and scientists. Quite a story.

I'm so angry I want to home-school my youngest now just to prove my point!!!!
Ummmm, this isn't a very good reason to homeschool, kwim. ;)

If you plan to homeschool because you've planned it out, thought about it, gotten lots of information on it, then I applaud you. Homeschooling WORKS!!! But to homeschool just to prove a point, will only make your frustrated and it won't work!!!

I can certainly understand your frustration though and your being angry. Get the book and let him read it. He just might change his mind!!


Edited to add: Debbie and I were typing at the same time. I agree, fighting with him over it won't work. Neither will win.
 

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I would homeschool my children if I could make the comittment and had the knowledge.........
 

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:angel: First of all, big Hugs to you. I know it can be really frustrating to argue with someone, especially over something so important involving your children.

Debbie and CJ made some excellent points. The advice about figuring out how your dh thinks ....it really does work.

I have long been intrigued by homeschooling, and started to read up on it. Both my dh and myself went to excellent ranking schools, and universities....our education was very traditional and geared toward competition and excellence in the traditional setting. KWIM???? Sounds similar to your dh's mindset!

Lo and behold, suddenly the more I investigated homeschooling, the more it made sense to me, and fit with my philosophy about learning and life.

I began to share these tidbits with dh gradually, and gathered research and statistics (he is just that kind of guy), and he began to wonder about this wonderful thing called homeschooling!

Now, in our situation it also involved prayer.....but the first step was investigating and gathering information based on what we were hoping to gain from homeschooling.

My gains were much more philisophical than my dh's initially...LOL, so I didn't present as much material geared to that aspect.

It interests him now, since he clearly believes and sees these benefits as we just went through our first year of home schooling! :angel:

Rather than digging in, or insisting that this was something that we had to do, or would do.....well, I just gradually shared all the exciting and wonderful things I had read about home schooling, with my dh.

Then, when I felt his mind and heart was open to it....I went for the Big Guns and presented him with the statistics etc. that matter to him!

Perhaps it may take him a little bit of time to come around. Perhaps, you may try getting some work books or lesson plans, and see how you both enjoy it. That may peak your dh's interest as well.

Perhaps, there is a HS group somewhere in your area, and you just don't know it.LOL If there is, this may be encouraging to your dh, and be of support to you as well.

Good Luck, it may take time, but I agree with the others, fighting over it is not the best way to start off HS.

From my experience as a newbie HS family, we all really needed to support and help each other through the first year, of this wonderful adventure called Home Learning!!!
 

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Sending big hugs to you!! I hope you and your dh can work this out and together make the best decision for your children. Please don't do anything "to prove a point". I know it's tempting at times...we've all been there but you need to do what is best for your children. Express your reasons for wanting to homeschool and listen and hear his reasons for not wanting to. Fighting over this won't resolve the issue. I know you are frustrated right now but maybe you could take a couple of days to "sleep on it" and come back together and work it out.

Please keep us updated and I hope it all works out. Keeping you in my thoughts!!!
 

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(((Hugs))) Bev.:heartsm: I hope you come to an agreement or compromise with your dh.:heartsm:
 
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