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ok, my DS has been having issues in school since he started 1st grade this fall. He got put into a remedial reading class within the first month, and his teacher says his math is suffering and he's not paying attention in class and he's gettin into trouble cuz he takes forever to get ready to come into the classroom cuz he's messing around in the hallway. I spoke to his reading teacher last week and she told me that my DS isnt applying himself and that i need to fix this at home. I talked to his teacher also and she said that he's not applying himself either. well i talked to my DS and he said that he's bored. He has no problems doing his nightly reading or his homework at home. what am i supposed to do if he is bored in school??? That isnt my job to fix what the teacher cant. I have told his teachers numerous times that he is a visual and hands on learner, not a auditory learner and all i get is that they cant do anything about that. he has to go with what the class is doing. My DH refuses to let me homeschool my son cuz he thinks that he HAS to go to school for the social interaction and all that stuff. I have done alot of research and i have found a few options. Online charter school that he can have a teacher and lesson plans and everything sent to the house and he has weekly meeting with the teacher and bi-weekly feildtrips with his "class". I have also found other charter "choice" schools that are alot smaller and appears to be more hands on but i'm afraid that the waiting list is going to be a mile long. I am thinking of putting him on the waiitng list and see if we can get him in if i put him on the waiting list now. I am going to be homeschooling him this summer. I dont want him to loose anything like he did the summer between kindergarten and first grade. Anyone have any suggestions on what i can do for him from now till june when school is out to help him out in school? since his teachers wont/ cant do anythinig else for him.. Thanks if you read this far!
 

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I know someone here can better answer your question, I just wanted to let you know I'm cheering you on. You're his biggest cheerleader, keep on searching til you find what works. I know there is an answer out there for you. :cheergrl:
 

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when my older 2 sons were in school we had the same problem...even took them for counseling(didn't do them any good & misdiagnosed them with ADD , ADHD)...so.....After alot of prayer, I felt led to banish all television & video games during the school week....& if they did well during the week, then they each could have 1 hour of video games and they could watch 1 hour of tv during the weekend...also with ds#2, I worked it out with the school cafeteria & his teacher to not give him any food that had sugar in it. To my pleasant surprise, and to the amazement of their counselor, their behavior at school dramatically improved...the counselor told me..."whatever you're doing, keep it up".
This is my own opinion, but the whole "socialization" thing about homeschooling is a bunch of bunk....I have been homeschooling my kids for the last 8 years & I can tell you that they are actually functioning better b/c they do not have the negativity of the so called "socialization" of an institution that indoctrinates instead of focusing on the academics. In actuality, public school teachers are only spending about 10 minutes of academics per period...the rest is all socialization....that is why the children are bringing home more and more homework that eats up 3-4 hours of family time in the evening...the parents are actually doing the job of teaching their children.
 

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http://www.k12.com/options/index.html click on that it has a public school at home program. we use the equivelant here in colorado. no cost to parents. all stuff provided. might have to scroll through to find your state. not every state participates. but alot do.

good luck whatever you decide. :)
 

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http://mnva.k12.mn.us/se3bin/clientschool.cgi?schoolname=school189 and this one might have more info too.

I agree about the socialisation that manyhouseapes mentioned. very often buzzwords hit that don't seem to fit correctly, and yet they stick. the arguement for socialisation in homeschool is totally inacurate for homeschoolers. perhaps i am not explaining that as correctly as i would wish to. (running on 3 hrs sleep and a crummy week) so let me use some analogies.

you go through your daily life at work and running errands. you deal with people all day. at the bank, work, store. when you pay attention to age ranges these people are all your peers. True or false?

False! in the "real world" we deal with people of all age ranges, etc. at work we aren't lumped into groups based on our ages.

And when you do your "work" with each of these people you do it in silence...true or false? False. you communicate, you give and take information. you don't get shushed for discussing the topic with your neighbor. you SOCIALISE you learn to get along with different tyeps of people etc.

my kids are social creatures. i don't homeschool just in the house. i do it while shopping, in group activities, scouts, dance, chorus, and more. they have their friends, sleepovers, birthday parties and more, just like any other kids do.

I know my point really isn't getting across in the articulate way i had intended. like i said i am running on little sleep. but i hope you understand and others can elaborate on or help what i have said, lol.
 

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Just to add on to what Many Houseapes said regarding homeschooling....We also HS and most HS children are by far more socialized than those in traditional schools. HS kids are exposed to a more diverse and wider variety of people as a rule. My kids, for example are very active in co-op classes with other HS children. They are both involed in sports. DD is a volunteer with the state Archives and History Museum where she interacts with groups of people of all ages constantly. She is also a volunteer with a baseball league for disabled children and adults which requires a lot of one on time with the players. They both are very active in the church youth group. I agree with Many Houseapes, the "homeschooled kids are not socialized" is a big load of bologna.

A study was released in our state that said the average student in a public school only had 2.5 hours per day of actual instruction time in a 7 hour school day. The rest of the time was spent going to the restroom, having snack or lunch, lining up, waiting while the teacher disciplined disruptive students etc... We require our kids do between 4 and 5 hours of schooling per day. It may not all be planned out lessons. Many times after they do their individual studies, one may read a book while the other does some story writing or journal writing. They may decided to watch a special on the history channel or play a board game.

I wish I had some advice for you and your son, but I don't. Just know that I too am cheering you on. Good Luck!!!
 
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