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Dear Lord help me. Lol. My son enlisted in the Army & I am lost. Never saw this coming. The last person in my family that was in the military was my dad...and I was 2. Anyone been down this road? Going to GA for his graduation sometime this summer and that's the extent of my knowledge. TIA.
 

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I haven't experienced a son or daughter enlisting, but in my case, I was the daughter enlisting.

He'll do just fine. It will be a great experience for him and open many doors.

Let me know if you have any questions--I'll try to answer!
 

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(((hugs))) I understand your apprehension concerning his decision. Us moms tend to worry about our kids no matter how old they are, but I'm sure your son will learn a lot from this experience.
 

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I've learned to accept his decision ( Lol what choice did I have) and I support him . Just didn't think this was in his plans. My son has trouble cleaning up after himself...can't imagine him getting through training. ;)
 

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Yes, and a hug for you, as well. My son did that to me, as well. I never saw it coming either. He survived two tours in Iraq and during the nastiest time of it over there, and I prayed and prayed, but he was fine (probably a lot safer than running around with his crazy-at-the-time friends here). It turned out to be the best for him. He returned so much more responsible and mature. I tease him that they finished raising him and taught him everything I couldn't or didn't. He's now a local police officer with a great wife, new house, and fantastic future. It will be okay for your son, too. There are lots of family support groups you can join, too. It always helped me to keep in contact with people who had kids in my son's unit. Sending care packages was always fun for us, too.
 

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My oldest son leaves for Basic next Monday. He's enlisting in the Air Force. I went been through Basic myself a long time ago, so I can relate a little bit. Dh is having a harder time with it.
 

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Yup...my youngest dd enlisted in the Guard (6 years) in 2001. We were very, very surprised. She deployed to Bosnia right after medic training, and then to Iraq in 2004/2005. She reupped again....and works full time for the Army. She's a Staff Sgt. and has just gotten a job with the weapons of mass destruction incident response team for our state. She's currently in training as a lab tech for the mobile unit. She loves her job and is married to a Major. The military was a fabulous decision for her...they both work on base here.
 

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You can Skype with him, Lynn. Maybe not till he's done with basic though.

I know when my brother was in the Army back in the sixties, those guys always loved getting anything in the mail. Doubt that's changed much. Homemade goodies were the best, from what he said, no matter what condition they arrived in. It should be easier now with overnight mail to get stuff there before it's stale.
 

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Hoped my son would choose not to go in the military and he didn't. What did he do he became a cop. My son in high school wanted to be a cop. I was upset at first but now I am very proud of him. My son did go to college for criminal justice. The military should help him out with becoming a cop. My Dad was an MP during WW II and road a motorcycle!
 

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My ds2 joined the Army, did 12 years. Two tours in Iraq. He has been out for app. six years. He got his first degree while enlisted, working on more schooling now. Not sure he'll finish as he has gotten a good job. He was a bit lost when he first became a civilian (not his choice, wife said she'd leave him if he re-upped). Funny thing, she left him anyway five years later.... Another story.
 

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He wants to be a cop too so hopefully this is the road to that. I will miss him dearly but I know it will all be ok. Life goes by so fast.
We can talk about this. Hubby went this route--military first, and it truly gave him an edge as a police officer.

Lots and lots of letters, post cards, silly jokes. I remember when I got home from bct and ait, I felt so out of place, because people were talking about all these things (even pop culture stuff) and I had NO idea what they were talking about.

My younger brother wrote me a letter freaking out because he heard Chuck Norris died. So write. Lots. Even about stuff that seems dumb.
 

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My dh had enlisted in the Marine Corp did his 4-yr term...he would of been a lifer but that kind of life is no good for a marriage at least in my case..Anyway, I wrote him a letter every single day he was in Bootcamp..it helped him mentally get through...

My dh didnt know how to function when he came back home after his term trying to adjust to the cilvilian life again..they are so use to being told what to do in the Marine Corp thats its hard for them to think on their own..at least thats how I veiwed it...

I now will see my middle son off to the Marine Corp this summer..I already know the drill..Im sad that he is leaving us..but ,I also know this will better his chances of having a better life than what our little town has to offer him..

The Marine Corp is very picky now on who they choose to join...which wasnt the case when my dh joined in 88..there is so much to be offered to Kody that wasnt for my dh...Kody wants to stay in for the full term....

I already warned Kody not to get involved in a relationship a few years ago when he said he wanted to join and he listened! That will make it alot easier for him..

Tell your ds we are ALL proud of him...and please say Thank You to him for serving our country..
 

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We can talk about this. Hubby went this route--military first, and it truly gave him an edge as a police officer.

Lots and lots of letters, post cards, silly jokes. I remember when I got home from bct and ait, I felt so out of place, because people were talking about all these things (even pop culture stuff) and I had NO idea what they were talking about.

My younger brother wrote me a letter freaking out because he heard Chuck Norris died. So write. Lots. Even about stuff that seems dumb.
Oh...thanks McD. I'm so glad that it will help to become a cop. I wasn't sure...seems like a long road to become a cop but what do I know...Lol.

I will write him while in BCT. Also, do you think I will get notice of when graduation will be? I know we will get a packet of some sort but I would like to plan ahead because I have to travel. I have heard that I mostly have to play things by ear as nothing is concrete in the Army. :)

My dh had enlisted in the Marine Corp did his 4-yr term...he would of been a lifer but that kind of life is no good for a marriage at least in my case..Anyway, I wrote him a letter every single day he was in Bootcamp..it helped him mentally get through...

My dh didnt know how to function when he came back home after his term trying to adjust to the cilvilian life again..they are so use to being told what to do in the Marine Corp thats its hard for them to think on their own..at least thats how I veiwed it...

I now will see my middle son off to the Marine Corp this summer..I already know the drill..Im sad that he is leaving us..but ,I also know this will better his chances of having a better life than what our little town has to offer him..

The Marine Corp is very picky now on who they choose to join...which wasnt the case when my dh joined in 88..there is so much to be offered to Kody that wasnt for my dh...Kody wants to stay in for the full term....

I already warned Kody not to get involved in a relationship a few years ago when he said he wanted to join and he listened! That will make it alot easier for him..

Tell your ds we are ALL proud of him...and please say Thank You to him for serving our country..
Aw thanks, Brenda. I will tell him. I am proud of him but I see all these ultra patriotic moms (fyi- I am patriotic just haven't draped the house in 10 flags & 42 ribbons yet. :) & I wonder what I should be doing...not really a military family. Well guess I will be now.
 

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You do what works best for you. We didnt tie the yellow ribbon round the old oak tree when hubby deployed. It seemed like a huge red flag in terms of home security.

You will be notified of when Basic is. The military is notorious for 'hurry up and wait' but from what I recall, our basic date was fairly nailed down. What career path (MOS) has your son picked?

Hubby was a Cav Scout and the mission they had in Iraq required a lot of schools/training prior to deploying. Those schools and trainings really helped hubby in terms of the LE career. Advise your son that when he is settled, outside of basic and ait, to take any schools offered to him. Many of the classes offered by the military will count as college credits (also helps with the LE career path).

Is your son active Army or did he go Reserves/Guard? I can't remember.
 

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My best friend just had his second grad today. He graduated basic back in Dec 2011 and this one was b/c he's done his course training. I think he has a few more courses but they will take place at a third and final base, the one he will be stationed at permanently. And hopefully his family will move to be with him very shortly after.

With technology - we were able to keep in touch via email, text, calls & I believe he skyped often with his family with weekend visits. We didn't do snail mail nor mail care packages but I can totally see how that helps with the homesickness. (his base is just over an hours drive from my place so he visited us regularly on the weekends he didn't drive home w/carpool)

BTW He didn't enter the Air Force as a boy then get turned into a man. He entered as a man, turned into an even better man. I'm so proud of him for choosing this as his second career this late in life. And he hasn't stopped talking about how life changing his training and experiences have been. No regrets :)

I really think your son will love it and that it definitely will teach him a lot of things that can't be learned at home.
 

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You do what works best for you. We didnt tie the yellow ribbon round the old oak tree when hubby deployed. It seemed like a huge red flag in terms of home security.

You will be notified of when Basic is. The military is notorious for 'hurry up and wait' but from what I recall, our basic date was fairly nailed down. What career path (MOS) has your son picked?

Hubby was a Cav Scout and the mission they had in Iraq required a lot of schools/training prior to deploying. Those schools and trainings really helped hubby in terms of the LE career. Advise your son that when he is settled, outside of basic and ait, to take any schools offered to him. Many of the classes offered by the military will count as college credits (also helps with the LE career path).

Is your son active Army or did he go Reserves/Guard? I can't remember.
Thanks McD. That helps a lot. He is active Army. He is 11X? According to another site, that's really not an MOS but that is the info he gave me. Lol.

My best friend just had his second grad today. He graduated basic back in Dec 2011 and this one was b/c he's done his course training. I think he has a few more courses but they will take place at a third and final base, the one he will be stationed at permanently. And hopefully his family will move to be with him very shortly after.

With technology - we were able to keep in touch via email, text, calls & I believe he skyped often with his family with weekend visits. We didn't do snail mail nor mail care packages but I can totally see how that helps with the homesickness. (his base is just over an hours drive from my place so he visited us regularly on the weekends he didn't drive home w/carpool)

BTW He didn't enter the Air Force as a boy then get turned into a man. He entered as a man, turned into an even better man. I'm so proud of him for choosing this as his second career this late in life. And he hasn't stopped talking about how life changing his training and experiences have been. No regrets :)

I really think your son will love it and that it definitely will teach him a lot of things that can't be learned at home.
Thanks Lib. I think (after basic :)) he will love it.
 
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