We know your out there.Your right along with the moms of toddlers pulling out your hair(and maybe even theirs).Who has kids that are teens.Tell us a lil about them,their ages etc.Also give us your tips.
I have two boys in the age group. One is 14 and one is 13. So close in age and yet so different from each other. DS#1 loves hockey, baseball, hanging out with his friends (!!, that comes with turning 14), music, and watching TV!!! It's amazing once he turned 14 so many things changed! Before 14 he wasn't a big TV watcher, if he saw his friends if was OK and if not that was OK too, but now he always wants to go somewhere.....NOT that he does mind you! I think it is a hard age for a boy, they are still a kid but trying to be grownup and finding there independence. kwim, hard to explain but I look at him and can't understand how he grew up so fast on me!!
DS#2 loves anything outside, he would rather climb a tree than ANY type of book work!! He is great at fixing things, especially bikes, he has the neighbour kids come and get him to fix their bikes. He loves woodworking, working with animals (horses in particular) Fun loving kid, also plays hockey and baseball and this year has joined the 4-H sheep club.
Oliver is 'fairly' sensible for his age I think - although he does keep himself quite private - so who knows LOL.
He is a gentleman anyway - he at least knows how to behave if it is required. He opens doors for women and things like that.
He is very artistic although he can hardly read and write - he is dyslexic. He has a wonderful sense of humour and is very quick with one-liners!
My daughter has had 3 strokes and subsequently can be very difficult and gets frustrated easily. She lost the ability to do all of the things that interested her before and is still quite bitter about being 'normal'. She has major brain damage (although you would hardly know to look at her!) but she is sexually un-inhibited etc. (which is a nightmare!!! Even worse than other teenagers!) She is drinking and smoking and making me gray!
On the other side she LOVES small children and is very generous. She has a perception of the way people 'feel' and can be very loving and giving. She keeps her feelings buried inside and then lets rip for what seems to be no apparent reason. She is stubborn and strong and has overcome major disabilities which I completly admire her for.
Ds #2 is 16- thinks he is 26 though! Can't understand why his brother (who is over 18 can do things and he can't). He strains at the restraints we put on him and screams every chance he gets. Of course- he's also my charming, witty, handsome, funny, smart,helpful - all around cool kid. He's an honor student taking all weighted classes this year, with NO study halls.
Dd- is 13. Can you say hormones? Whew! Raising boys was easy compared to this. She's all tomboy- no pink or lace here. She doesn't want to buckle down to study so her grades aren't the best- but she can out do either of her brothers when she tries. She works at the dance studio and loves teaching the younger kids (although she has the typical frustrations of all teacher with kids not wanting to practice and such).
DS1 is 14. He is very athletic. He is smart, but only does what he has to in order to get decent grades. He plays football and runs track. He use to race motorcycles as well. He was always pretty mature for his age. He has a lot of self confidence and has a few girls who call him on a regular basis. (every night). We clash about everything. I think that if I said it was dark outside, he would say that it was light out just to fight with me. He gets a major attitude if I even talk to him wrong. I can't wait until we get over this phase. But the bad part about that is I have 2 more to become teenagers when he finally gets past his teen years. He picks on his brothers all the time. Especially the middle one. Sometimes I secretly wish for the day the ds2 is big enough to kick the crap out of ds1. Just a little payback for all the years of torture he put him through. I told him that and he just laughs. He says that it will never happen. (he is 7 years older so ds2 has a long way to go.)
I have two teenagers ages 15 and 18.
Ds#3 age 18 is very sweet and kind. He always thinks of others. He is a gifted artist and very witty. He was in the gifted and talented program, in elementary school, but doesn't try as hard, now. He loves animals and music and video games.
Ds#4 age 15 is very intelligent and loves learning. I think he cares more about science, than any other person I've ever met. He has never given us a minute of trouble. He loves animals and is begging for a pet goat. He also enjoys video games and the outdoors.
The kids have gone off to school and all of the sudden Marks stereo starts blaring...did he set it to do that? Well Mark is 16 1/2 loves music, the loud screaming kind. He's very laid back (lazy) & loves to make people laugh. His favorite activities include snow boarding, paintball, swimming, video games, using the 'puter and hanging out with his friends. He's great with kids and is a really caring guy, even though he says "Yea, whatever" or "i don't care" too much. He's almost always on the honor roll and is very good at putting minimal effort towards his schoolwork and still pull off good grades. Somehow he just knows.:toothy:
Nicole is 18 and is finishing up her last year of high school. She's always been driven to do her best. She's almost always been on the honor roll too. She's very opinionated and headstrong- takes after her Dad I think. She loves to play the trumpet, tennis,music, shopping and snuggling with her boyfriend. Earlier teen years were tough for the both of us, but we made it through. Tough time for girls and their Moms. Tip~pick your battles.
She'll be going to the local State U to get her Bachelor of Business Administration degree in Technology Management. At least that's the plan this week.
She's a beautiful young lady who can do just about anything she puts her mind too. She takes chances and puts herself out there, A trait I admire greatly. She gets snotty and witchy at times but she can be a sweetie when she wants to.
Lucky me, I am the bald mother of both a teen and a toddler :loop:
Ashlee is 14 and is obsessed with her friends. She talks online to them and on the phone. Two of her friends are boys, much to DH chagrin :sigh:
She could care less about getting good grades and thinks its unimportant. She gets by, usually just missing the honor roll. She plays the drums and has a good sense of humor. She is very much into weird stuff-ghosts, big foot, etc., which is why those boys think she's cool, lol.
She gives her opinion every chance she gets, even if it's not asked for. She can also be loving and has a fondness for animals and all people, no matter what race or creed. She feels everyone is equal.
She will be driving in 3 years and I'm not looking forward to this.
I have a Francois who is 14. He is a quiet, discreet teenager, but very social. He has many friends. He gets along well with everyone. He loves skateboarding, playing th computor, listening to loud music. He doesn't like to do homework and needs a push every day to get to it...He's very tall, 5'8 inches.(well I think he's tall-lol )
I also have Mathieu, who just turned 12. He also loves skateboarding, the computor and loud music. He's in the basketball team in his school. He still likes to *play* sometimes, like legos(shhh-don't tell his friends) or police/gangster outside with his friends. He jokes alot around and loves to eat, especially bbq chips, vinegar chips and all kind of chips. :sigh:...oops, forgot to say...he has a little girlfriend...it's been 2 months...lol I hope they don't plan to marry soon!
OK_ I have 3 in this age group at home,and one not at home.
DS is 19,and one of the coolest people I know(even tho 1/2 my gray hair has been by him!!!) He quit HS which upset me very much,but is now working on his GED.
DD1 is almost 16,and wants to be a nurse. She is very artistic,and has a beautiful voice,and stage fright like you wouldn't believe... she does beaded jewelry,and likes to design clothes. Shes into country music,so no bad headaches here. She is the only one in the house with blond hair and blue eyes.
DD2 is almost 13,and has a learning disability. She is my sweetheart,and a very loveable caring child. I asked her what she wants to be when she grows up and her answer was-"gosh mom,I'm a kid-I don't know yet "
DD3 just turned 12,and I think she was born an adult. She has a VERY sharp wit,and is also a blooming artist. She is also the one I secretly leave in charge,when DD1 babysits,because she tells me EVERTHING that happens-bluntly.
As for tips-#1 make yourself approacable. My kids tell me everything! #2 teach them to take responsibility for their own actions. #3 Whenever they discourage or upset you,take a look at all the things everyone wrote here. I think all of our kids are great!!!!#4 NEVER forget how it was to be young. Its a very hard job.
I'm in here with such great company, now I KNOW who feels my pain!!! My dd#2 will be 18 on Ju8ne 15th, she reminds me everyday that soon enough she will be an adult. I wish her luck because oh how I wish I could crawl into my mom's bed again and feel safe.
Ds#1 is 16, soon to be 17 and is in a constant struggle with his dad. If the two of them don't stop soon, I may have to move in with one of you!! He is a good kid who is very smart, just feeling like a man I guess
Ds#2 is 12, and he is my lazy child, he will be the first to admit it. He is my baby so he has gotten away with murder. I admit, I created a monster!!! He is also a great loving kid, he loves me so much and will still hold my hand in public, I am a lucky mom indeed!
LOL, Danielle!! Me too! My Amy Grace just turned 12 in April. (my Jason will be 2 in July and I'm due in July as well!) She can be quite a moody thing at times. For the most part - so far!- she is a pretty thoughtful kid. She has a great disposition for working with special needs kids and loves doing it. She is testing for her black belt in Choi Kwang Do in June and is working hard to do it. I just recently found a babysitter for Jason (an Amy helper ) and she is a great roll model for Amy. Amy's grades in science have gone up and because the 17 yo also has a toddler brother, she is learning how to be a better big sister. We do have the rare rebellion incidents, but nothing compared to what I hear other people dealing with. She is a huge book worm and promising her quiet reading time always puts a smile on her face.
My dd is turning 14 this Thursday. She has some hormone shifts once in a while but for the most part is a sweet person. She has her first "boyfriend", a sweet boy at church told her he "likes" her and would like to sit with her at church, young love lol. She isn't a typical girl because she likes or should I say loves video games and can speed hours playing them. She also likes tv, a little too much in my opinion, lol. And she likes to draw and do quiet things sometimes. So far she hasn't gotten too interested in makeup or weird clothes, thank goodness. And she does well in homeschool but does have a lazy streak when it comes to homework and studying. She'll be driving in 2 years, I'll warn everyone when she gets her license, lol, she can be scatterbrained sometimes and I wonder about her driving a car!!!
I only have one that falls in this age group, ds who is 12 and at the rate he's going he will not reach 13 if I have anything to do with it This is not the same kid that I lived with last year. Good gosh, one day he's so sweet and then the next day he wants to be sent to military school to get away from us just because I told him to clean his room. It is a thought though :crackup: He thinks we are terrible because we tell him to do a couple of things, I used to ask him nicely and then when he would tell me to do it myself, I started telling him to do it. He always wants to start a fight with me and then he will throw in the I hate my life. I try to be open to him and sometimes I know I'm too hard on him, but he sure can push those right buttons. This is the first time going through this so I can't really give any tips, I'm just along for the ride, bumps and all. I am always hearing how good and well behaved he is in school and all I can do is stare at that person and blink. The thing that really gets my nerves is he picks on his sisters all the time. I know I'm suppose to tell alittle about them. OK He's a big pain in the butt right now :animated: He's really a good kid, but I can't wait til this is done with! I'll take the terrible two's again over this anyday
Milhos - I have got to try that. DD Amanda is my stepdaughter. She refers to me as "the help". Not one shred of respect from her. We are surviving by avoiding each other. DH was told a year ago that if she couldn't manage the basic manners everyone else was expected to use in this house that she wasn't welcomed back. He watched her for a day while I was at work and observed her treatment of the rest of the kids. Needless to say, she was on a plane back to her mother after he talked to her and he was told to that a flying leap. Her mother was mortified and apologised, but DD 16 is still determined not to have anything to do with the rest of us (youngest DD is her half sister by DH's second wife and DD 12 is DH's ex's child from a previous relationship).
DS is my bio child. He is 13. This morning I had a meeting with his teachers. He won't pass to 8th grade without summer school. He is tall (6' 2"), sweet, and artistic. He just refuses to apply himself to his school work. Right now he waffles between acting grown and being interested in the ladies to sitting down with friends and a pile of Yu-gi Oh cards.
OK WELL HERE GOES (although most of you already know about my problem teenager) :lol:
My ds, Josh is 19 years old, but acts more mature than any 30 year olds I know. He goes to college and when he isn't in school he is working, either at his regular job or a side job. He has more side jobs lined up than time to do them all. Everyone complements him on his manners (yes ma'am, no ma'am to everyone ALL THE TIME) he thanks me for supper (has always said I enjoyed it mama after every meal, even if it was a grilled cheese sandwich) He is sensitive, generous, kind-hearted, hard working. He actually knows the value of a dollar and SAVES money, really SAVES. He has bought himself a bright red Dodge Dakota truck, makes payments on it, pays his insurance, etc.
He takes care of the vehicle. When me and dh were separated, he was my rock, he is the one that told me not to worry, that if push came to shove, he and I could afford to move and get a place together..
I can truly say that my son will make someone a very good husband someday..... No time soon though, I hope. lol
He wants to have his career mapped out and all before any of that takes place...
Now dd, Lynsey is 17 (will be 18 in August) but she thinks she is 25 or older, but acts 14 most of the time.. She started out with the manners just like ds, but lost them somewhere along the way. At least to me, she seems to be nice to other people. Like the girl who's family she has been staying with since the last car wreck and all, she is really nice to them.
For some reason she thinks i owe her something, I treated them both the same, they both saved money and got there own vehicles and all (ds had an older truck when he was 16, worked hard and got the newer one he has now) Lynsey had a 1985 Honda to begin with, that we tried to talk her out of buying because it didn't seem dependable, after about 8 months it died. (she had already hit someone in the rear bumper while driving it though) SO......during the time my dh was gone, my good hearted brother gave her a car (GrandAm) that he had to have fixed for her, with the understanding she would make monthly payments to him (well she has made 1 payment in 7 months) WRECKED it in December, hit 2 people (now she has been having to pay for it to be fixed) WELL the people she's living with is the man that has the collision place, he has been getting the parts for it as she pays him........... THE CAR IS IN MY NAME and i never agreed for it to be taken there in the first place. She still hasn't paid my brother any more money, wont call him to make arrangements or anything. (he said he really wasn't going to make her pay for it in the beginning until she started treating me so bad)
so when the car is fixed then she has to keep paying on it until the labor is covered. WELL now after 4 wrecks and she moved in with that family i took her OFF the car insurance.... SO today she has the nerve to call me and want me to call insurance companies to get her some prices---I said you can't get insurance until you're 18 in your name only, and besides that when they run your record you won't get any anyways.
She said well Mike said i could get the car this weekend, i said WELL MISSY, the car will be brought to my driveway and left since it is in my name......
Anyway you have all heard me talk about her some before --she quit school in the 12th grade, yes the 12th grade, she has had wrecks, fender benders, etc (but can't understand why i don't want her to drive), she had had 4-5 jobs since january....
The last wreck she was in (with the other girl, in that girls' car) they were hit by someone that has no insurance, now the hospital, chiropractor etc are coming after me for the money....
lol ---DREAM ON!!!!!!!! The story could go on and on, but i know i have written more than i should have already and you're probably :yawning: One more thing though, my dd hangs up on me on the phone if i don't say what she wants, can you believe that.....THEN she calls me and wants something from me...
When i first started taking my treatments last year (chemo) i was in bad shape the 1st night, laying on the couch crying (she was the only one at home and didn't even ask me if she could do anything for me)
Well you get the picture, if 2 people could ever be different as night and day, these are the 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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