When I was a single mom.. the worst for me was when I got sick. You still have to get up and take care of my son while feeling horrible. It would have been nice to have someone there to take care of him so I could just sleep and get better.
I agree with being sick, and finances. I also want to add shoveling and yard work. I know it can be a womans work too, but after a day of daycare kids, cleaning, taking care of my own 2 kids, running errands, taking kids to sports, i really dont want to shovel or mow lawn. Would be nice to pass that on to someone.
Oh yeah- being sick. Not having anyone to help when you are needing to just rest. The worst is if you have an emergency. Trying to find someone you trust to not only take you to the hospital but also watch the kids while you are there... the worst.
I am new to the single mom situation, and I just had car trouble. Boy do I wish I didn't have to deal with that. When I was sick, he was "sicker" so there was no help there, although I have wished for it I think the hardest thing is probably trying to find work. I didn't realize how good I had it being able to stay home. Finding a job is hard work - I can imagine how hard working and taking care of kids is.
On that note, I salute all you hard working single mama's!!!:grouphug:
The stress of parenting alone and without any help, either monetarily or otherwise. I bear all the responsibility (and blame) for whatever the kid does or doesn't do and it's as if her father does not exist. When she does good, I get no credit at all but when she does bad, it's somehow all my fault.
Well, I'm not a mom yet - on an adoption waiting list - but I already wish I had someone just to help with general chores - take out the garbage/recycling, help me move things, help with yardwork, etc.
My long-distance bf will do a honey-do list on his visits. I keep it very short and only things that I really, really want done. He visits three times a year so I don't want his entire visit to be doing chores obviously but a bit of help really makes me feel so good and he likes being able to help me.
What I immediately missed once divorced (ex moved several states away) was that when you're fighting the flu, it sucks to drive kids to school and pulling over to throw up. Or not pulling over in time.
I really have issues with married people who do have involved spouses and do not REALIZE just how good they have it. They complain about the pettiest things and can't see how much their husband does for them. Please, just drive my kids to school when I have the flu or a fever running-to-the-bathroom stomach issue. Please!
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