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Ok hre's the history bil wife is a drug addict has cheated on him severly times some of those times for dope. He loves her and forgives her everytime. He took of work for almost a month to detox her. She is doing better she is off the needle, but she is still taking prescript pills. She has runaway several times always fleeing to the other bil house. She is very close to the other bil wife. She had been there for a week and a half and decided to go home and work on getting clean blah blah blah. fast forward she has been home for 2 days when her 18 year old daughter finds a note written back and forth between her and the other bil(not the husband) states in detail that they have been sleeping together and are in love they just don't know how to be together for obvious obstacles. Her daughter wants her dad to know she just can't bring herself to say it to him. She calls me and wants me to tell him. I went over to the other BIL house and confront him. At this point I do not believe the whole story. He admits it. I do not w3ant to be in the middle of this, but I hate knowing this and not telling the wife of the one bil and the bil . I know too many bils. This will tear our family apart. I do not know what to do!
 

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I am so sorry for what you're going through, I must apologize because I don't really have any advice to give you.........I will keep your families in my thoughts and prayers though..

I will just say from past experience --deep down i am glad to have known when dh was cheating on me --and i had a bro that cheated on my sil and she found out and actually they were able to work it out better when everthing was on the table. They separated for like 2months and she and i talked several times during for comfort..........
 

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My heart goes out to you, Angelee. I don't have any great words of wisdom for you, but to say I'd think long and hard before saying anything to either in laws.
Remember things could back-fire and you
could be the one getting hurt..
Good luck with what ever your decision will be.
 

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:hugz: I'm so sorry that you are caught in the middle of all of this. Since you have already confronted the cheating BIL and he admitted it, then he will most likely tell the cheating SIL that you now know. Both of them need to come clean and tell their spouses. Please just be there for your cheated on relatives and their children. It sounds like this is going to be a very tough situation for all involved. My prayers are with you and your entire family.
 

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Thoughts and prayers are with you and your families. That is alot of info to hold in and not let come out. I am surprised that the 18 year old hasn't said something to her dad yet. Hopefully since the cheating BIL knows you know, he will tell.
 

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I hope so too. I will keep it in as long as I can. I think since a few people now know it won't stay a secret for long.
 

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What a terrible position to be in..... I'm sorry for you ! See what your dh says.....
 

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What a tough spot to be in. I hope it all works out for you. Hugs.
 

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Oh, AngeeLee...I don't know what to say...but please be careful for yourself...Being caught in the middle like this must be so hard for you. I'll keep you in my prayers. Good luck.:heartsm:
 

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Ok here's what is going on. BIL knows something is going on and calls me begging. I told him to ask his wife I am not getting caught in the middle! He was very upset, but I got him to realize my reasoning. I am not loosing anymore sleep over their soap opera. Enough people know that it will come out. Thanks ladies!
 

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I think you did the right thing. Sounds like he is headed down the road to discovery and asking his wife is where it should lead. :hugz:
 

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I'm glad that you have told BIL to talk to his wife after he asked you. You don't need to be caught in the middle of this one. I've been in family situations where some of the inlaws were cheating with others outside the family and it's horrible!!! I to have been put in the middle before and I don't like it one bit.
 
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