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Isn't there a saying that goes something like 95% of what you worry about never comes to pass? I've found that to be very true.

The last two and a half years, I was under some serious stress about a situation that I couldn't control, but I put so much energy into it anyway. The lack of sleep, bad diet, talks and fights with dh, phone calls, money spent, etc. The what if's....what if's. What a waste of time it all was and a drain on my health.

Well, it never happened and the situation took care of itself. I'm mad that I let it live in my brain for so long. Maybe a fairy was looking after my family.

I wish I could take back all that wasted energy.

So, have you ever worried about something that didn't amount to a hill of beans.
Any lessons you learned from it?
 

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Too many times Palooka!! Don't we hate things out of our control. I really think that as long as we learn this at some point in our lives - me - I learned it late. DH - learned it early = much less stress.

Learn it and then live it and share gently with others. Never beat yourself up for what might have been 'lost' (time, energy, etc) - it's all really part of the learning.

Mahalo for bringing this up now - always appropriate.
 

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Ahhh, yeah. Too often.

The only thing I can say about it is, I just could not take the stress of it anymore. I crave peace, I just started letting go of the things I have no control over. It drives some people crazy that I seem so uncaring, but I feel so much better now. Let them have stomach ulcers, I'm done.
 

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I live in Georgia, and I guess we have the oldest American alive here. She is 114. Her friend was asking her about her longevity. She said she lived so long because she minded her own business.

I think that falls into the category of not worrying about what we can not change (God's business), what others do or don't do, and what other think of us.

I have been so stressed about a genetic condition I have. How fast will it progress? Should we move to prepare? Blah, blah, blah. I have been making myself crazy over something I have no control over. I am resolving to live in the here and now!!

Loved this thread!
 

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Yep. I'm a compulsive worrier. I do it less now than in years past (because, like you, I can see that almost everything I worried over did not come to pass, and those that did were WAY less tragic than my mind conjured) but I STILL do it. It must have somewhat of a genetic component because my mom and my sister are just like that, too (my sister somewhat worse than my mom and me). My faith, and prayer, has helped me a lot, but that's not something everyone can turn to, I realize. I'll be interested to read some of others' coping strategies.
 
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This is I how I view most situations...When faced with something that is quite traumatic we usually go from letter A to letter Z....the truth is that most times we end up at letter K as a worst cast scenario. That's how it was with me when we were sued for our house ever that car accident we had years ago...we didn't lose it, but we did lose $30,000 of our own money after the insurance paid their limits....
 

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Too many times, caused so much stress, leading to physical and mental health issues.

DH's fight with his own mental health, serious biopolar mania, addiction. his acting out leading to his filing for bankruptcy. Major strain on finances let alone the marriage. Me having to act as gate keeper when he was incapable of decison making during recovery.

I sat in church many times begging God to tell me what to do, give me some sign that I was doing the right thing. Begging for help and strength to make through.

Then I had a revelation (God answered) I gave all my issues to Him. Let Him guide me. I feel much better now, I thank Him everyday.
 

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A professor once gave me advice

The only thing that is worth worrying about is if something will cause you physical or spiritual death.

nothing else is a big deal.

I try to remember that but when looking at budgets and stuff I worry because it feels like it will be death but in reality it will not.
 

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Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere.
I was trying to figure where you were going with the similie as I couldn't figure out how a rocking chair would fit with not worrying.

But then rocking chairs strike fear in this mother's heart
 

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Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere.

I have always loved this saying!
 

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Nuisance, I have felt that because of or even perhaps in spite of = everything we do, that our children will grow up just fine. Now, I know that there are special circumstances as many of my students and your son may/are in - and yet, I still have high hopes for all of them.

Years ago we were in terrible financial straits and I had the hardest time sleeping, let alone function. Decided at night that I would mentally package up each individual roblem or worry and toss the package - in my mind- into the ocean - across the street. I knew they were still therre, accessible when I wanted to work on them - but not my immediate burden.

I also had an amazing response to my prayers. I fell asleep one night and dreamt/felt that my whole being was being tendered cradled in God's hands. I can still feel that wonderful sense of calm that God was taking care of it all - I wish that feeling for you all.
 

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I needed this today, too. Thanks. :)
 

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This is so true! Just last week I was getting very worried about an upcoming meeting in work. I was initially concerned about a small issue that had to be discussed during it which then turned into me worrying about the general security of my job. Eventually I was convinced that how well the meeting went had a pretty strong relation to how likely it would be that I would continue to be employed.

When the meeting rolled around it went better than I ever could have imagined and in hindsight I realise even if it had went badly it wouldn't have had the detrimental impact I worried it would.

My mother has always said, "If you worry, you die. If you don't worry...you die." :laugh:
 
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