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A small background:
I was in the Marine Corps from March 1997 to August 2001. In that time, I made lots of friends. One of these friends in particular was someone that I dated on and off. It was nothing too serious. After I got out of the Marine Corps, we lost touch. Lo and behold, we find each other via MySpace. After that, we friend each other on Facebook and have been in contact for the last two weeks.
So fast forward to today:
I get this Facebook message from his current girlfriend (who is 19 years old... he's 32) telling me all sorts of crap. In it, there's the words "he has no wishes of rekindling anything of vthat sort so I would appreciate it if your conversations remained strictly as friends if you want to continue talk to him. And if you had any. Intentions or dreams of being with him or coming to see him to rekindle a falsified fantasy I will insure you now that he is very much spoken for. For the past year and forever more."
Err? What?!
I am just outraged. I don't think outraged can even describe how I feel. It's more like I'm about to beat someone up after seeing this.
He and I have been talking and he has told me that he loves her very much. I told him I'm happy for him and that it's good to see him with someone he feels that strongly about. We've pretty much been the same to each other now that we were before. I have no inclination of being with him and out of the two things I wrote on his wall in two weeks, I get his girlfriend sending me this.
I told her that in no way, shape or form does she have any right whatsoever to dictate how I'll speak to her boyfriend and how our friendship will continue to be. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be different to an old, old friend of mine just because she's young and insecure and can't deal with the fact that he has other friends. I mean for crying out loud, he's a bartender in a bar now and I see him with lots of women in pictures. But for someone like me, who is happily married for the last eight years, to spook her is something else all together.
I replied to her the following:
I don't think you have any right whatsoever to tell me how I should and should not be friends with someone who I have been with way before he knew you existed. I would suggest that in the future, you learn to appreciate what you have and stop trying to dictate who your boyfriend may or may not associate with on any level.
Lastly, if you have any personal issues with me being friends with him, then I suggest you look at why you feel that way and ask yourself if getting that worked up over someone who is 3k miles away is really worth it. If you believe that I'm trying to sabotage your relationship with him, that's on you.
I have one rule in my life:
Don't screw with my friendships.
So what do you do? I already blocked her and I sent him a message. I told him that I know how much he loves her, but for her to speak to an old friend like that really deserves a talk with her. I also told him that I'm not going to make him choose because well, that's just stupid, but he needs to drill it into her head that I'm not a threat of any kind to his relationship.
I was in the Marine Corps from March 1997 to August 2001. In that time, I made lots of friends. One of these friends in particular was someone that I dated on and off. It was nothing too serious. After I got out of the Marine Corps, we lost touch. Lo and behold, we find each other via MySpace. After that, we friend each other on Facebook and have been in contact for the last two weeks.
So fast forward to today:
I get this Facebook message from his current girlfriend (who is 19 years old... he's 32) telling me all sorts of crap. In it, there's the words "he has no wishes of rekindling anything of vthat sort so I would appreciate it if your conversations remained strictly as friends if you want to continue talk to him. And if you had any. Intentions or dreams of being with him or coming to see him to rekindle a falsified fantasy I will insure you now that he is very much spoken for. For the past year and forever more."
Err? What?!
I am just outraged. I don't think outraged can even describe how I feel. It's more like I'm about to beat someone up after seeing this.
He and I have been talking and he has told me that he loves her very much. I told him I'm happy for him and that it's good to see him with someone he feels that strongly about. We've pretty much been the same to each other now that we were before. I have no inclination of being with him and out of the two things I wrote on his wall in two weeks, I get his girlfriend sending me this.
I told her that in no way, shape or form does she have any right whatsoever to dictate how I'll speak to her boyfriend and how our friendship will continue to be. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be different to an old, old friend of mine just because she's young and insecure and can't deal with the fact that he has other friends. I mean for crying out loud, he's a bartender in a bar now and I see him with lots of women in pictures. But for someone like me, who is happily married for the last eight years, to spook her is something else all together.
I replied to her the following:
I don't think you have any right whatsoever to tell me how I should and should not be friends with someone who I have been with way before he knew you existed. I would suggest that in the future, you learn to appreciate what you have and stop trying to dictate who your boyfriend may or may not associate with on any level.
Lastly, if you have any personal issues with me being friends with him, then I suggest you look at why you feel that way and ask yourself if getting that worked up over someone who is 3k miles away is really worth it. If you believe that I'm trying to sabotage your relationship with him, that's on you.
I have one rule in my life:
Don't screw with my friendships.
So what do you do? I already blocked her and I sent him a message. I told him that I know how much he loves her, but for her to speak to an old friend like that really deserves a talk with her. I also told him that I'm not going to make him choose because well, that's just stupid, but he needs to drill it into her head that I'm not a threat of any kind to his relationship.
No drama there if you just ignore and carry on with your life talking to whomever you please.
