This is me. I really wish I had realized the kind of family DH comes from. DH is constantly put into the middle of all family arguements (when he doesn't want to be) and he is the one expected to "bail out" everyone else, though we have little enough ourselves. While we are happily married ( at least as far as each other is concerned), the in-laws have been a constant source of stress in our lives.I wish I had known that in-laws can be sooo hard to deal with. I had a real rosy picture of our 2 families blending and honestly it has been the hardest part of our 17 year marriage.