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Heather Bob
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What Not to Do Every Day
Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach

With time flying by faster and faster every day, you already know
it’s important to decide what you’re going to do each day.
However, it’s equally important to know what not to do. Add some
Don’ts to your day, and see how it helps with all those Do’s.

Don’t over schedule your day.

It seems like scheduling every minute would be the logical way to
get everything done, but it actually tends to work against you.
Some things will take longer than you expected, some things will
interfere that you can’t predict. If you’re scheduled to the
max, you’ll have no room to absorb them, things will overrun, and
frustration will set in. Instead, plan in the free time. Aim
for about 75% scheduled, 25% free.

Don’t say Yes to everything.

Saying Yes to everything is like cholesterol – it clogs your day
with stuff you don’t want there. Doing other people’s work,
answering annoying phone calls, deleting junk emails. If you
want to read a book, say No to TV and the internet. If you want
to start a home business, say No to things that waste your time.
If you want to lose weight say No to Frito-Lay and Sara Lee.
Simple as that (I didn’t say easy, I said simple.)

Don’t put what you want at the moment over what you want in the
long run.

That extra 20 minutes of sleep in the morning might seem like the
best thing since sliced peanut butter, but you know it will only
make you late, and then playing catch up the rest of the day.
That new pair of shoes may seem like the last pair you’ll ever
need, but if it makes the rent money tight, it’s not worth it.
Think about the long term effects of your actions today.

Don’t get duped with “I can have it all” ideas.

Having it all is possible, either by having it at different times
in your life, or by having a whole lot of help (think Kelly Ripa
or Katie Couric). Their few spare minutes are certainly not
spent grocery shopping or cleaning toilets. So please, lose the
Super-Woman idea attached to it.

Don’t get trapped in microwave mentality.

Things take time. Appreciate the various stages of projects and
goals as well as the outcome. Ever notice a rose in bud form?
It’s beauty is special – no need to wait until the rose is opened
to enjoy it. A child is not just something to be steered into
adulthood before s/he can be appreciated. Neither are your goals
of home projects, or getting a degree, or even getting your
scheduled organized. Learn from the mistakes, learn to enjoy the
lessons, and make each day as special as the end result.

Don’t give up.

Never give up. When you mess up, or when the winds of life come
barreling in unannounced – and it will – being prepared as best
you can will give you the strength to be able to move on. If you
lose your job suddenly, having a reserve of money will ease the
transition into a new job and give you the power to wait to find
the right one. When it seems like there’s no answer, push on.
The answer may be just around the next corner. Don’t let fear,
or anger, or frustration, or your money, or your in-laws, stop
you from living your life. Keep going. It’s your turn next.


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1,100 Posts
Great advice. Thanks!

Susie in MN

12,790 Posts
Thanks Heather.
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