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"why can't we just draw names?"

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Drawing names sure it is frugal but there always seems to be that one hold out that holds up the drawing of names with "No" or "Definite no when it comes to only drawing the children's names"

I must confess that is me in my extended family. I love looking for a buying a present I think the person will love. Sure that is the main reason but it is also selfish on my part. Sometime that present from my SILs are the only present I receive that Christmas and most of the time it is the only surprise I receive.

Hubby is a awful present giver. The kind you rejoice if he stopped by the drugstore on Christmas Eve and bought you mints. My mother only buys the exact thing you requested down to the color ( if the store is out of that color she calls you to ask what other color you want and lists the choices the store has) Sometimes the children make decorations in school, some years not.

So yes that bottle of lotion or gift card for pizza is important to me. I don't want to give that up to a drawing.

So please don't get angry at the person saying no to the name draw or adult gift swap find out why it is so important to them. My extended family did and it was truly as wonderful day when they did.
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I think the most important thing is to have open, honest communication. You may have legitimate reasons why you don't want to forgo giving gifts to everyone. But if there are people who are so financially strapped that they are behind in mortgage payments and other bills and are maxed out on credit cards as a result of the economic downturn (as is the case with some of our relatives), I don't think they should be pressured into continuing to purchase gifts for everyone.

DH and I have a very large extended family so buying presents for every person is financially challenging anyway. Years ago, one branch of his family (which had the most people), converted to a Yankee Swap, which we all now love.

However, instead of purchasing gifts, I've always enjoyed making gifts for family and friends. For example, I Iove to quilt. My mother and sister-in-law saw one of my quilts and loved the fabrics in it. I just so happened to have enough leftover fabric to make two table runners, one for each of them. My mother-in-law loves lavender so giving her a big (and pretty inexpensive) basket of lavender soap, body cream, shower wash, etc., is one of her Christmas delights.

The most important part of the holidays, for me at least, is to show people who I love how much they mean to me. Making them feel at ease with and enjoy gift giving during these tough economic times is one of the best ways to do that.
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